"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Mrchunglee

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Im been reading up on this subject but I have yet to understand it. When a girl likes me they seem to go crazy when they have to chase. They ask to hang out, have sex, etc. My problem is that i dont have the most free time in the world (work, school, sports). When i try to chase a female it never works, its like they automatically feel like they have higher value. Should I continue to be chased or is there a happy medium i should be following. Thanks guys
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Jay Dee

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You've seemingly got the right attitude bro. Keeping a busy lifestyle, with ladies coming somewhere behind. Because when they go off on their own tangent as they do at times, you don't get too distracted, if at all. You shouldn't chase them, they should be chasing you, that way they feel they've earned you, which works out a lot better in the whole social dynamic.

As you're the guy, if you're interested in a chick, you should generally instigate proceedings, you are starting to chase if you instigate more than a couple of times and not get much in return, whether it's regular dates and/or sex. If you come across her path occasionally after that then be civil, but don't instigate again - she can though as you've more than shown your interest.

Make sure you're instigating regularly as it's a bit of a numbers game too, the more chicks you come across, the more of a chance you have of coming across a decent girl. I take it the chicks that are chasing you aren't that nice and/or you're looking for a relationship? If they were hot or you just wanted sex, you would be finding the time I'm sure.
 

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It just seems like a hard concept. The really hot girls seem like they want to be chase (ie. no effort to call or text) i just have to find out how i can put my self out there then be chased again
 

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That´s the problem: chasing chicks. Most of the time doesn´t work. Being chased by them it´s the right thing.

Being busy is good, but man, you should have some time to girls. I´m sure you can do it! :)


Good luck!
 
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