Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Really there is no right or wrong here, you could argue pros and cons for either lifestyle choice.runningonice said:I don't get why young men desire a serious relationship. I want to experience many pretty women in and out of bed. Not to mention putting all your eggs in one basket is a recipe for disaster for many reasons that have already been documented on this site.
If you have a good perspective on life, you understand that the opportunities and variety in front of you from age 18-25 just will not be repeated as you get older - plus your sex drive will naturally peter out due to decreases in testosterone levels. As such it makes logical sense to have superficial relationships as a young fella, and get as much ass as you can because if you don't it will seriously impair your ability to be faithful as you wonder "what if" and live your later years in regret.I don't get why young men desire a serious relationship
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.