Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Really there is no right or wrong here, you could argue pros and cons for either lifestyle choice.runningonice said:I don't get why young men desire a serious relationship. I want to experience many pretty women in and out of bed. Not to mention putting all your eggs in one basket is a recipe for disaster for many reasons that have already been documented on this site.
If you have a good perspective on life, you understand that the opportunities and variety in front of you from age 18-25 just will not be repeated as you get older - plus your sex drive will naturally peter out due to decreases in testosterone levels. As such it makes logical sense to have superficial relationships as a young fella, and get as much ass as you can because if you don't it will seriously impair your ability to be faithful as you wonder "what if" and live your later years in regret.I don't get why young men desire a serious relationship
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.