What's the point of monogamy?

[runningonice]

I don't get why young men desire a serious relationship. I want to experience many pretty women in and out of bed. Not to mention putting all your eggs in one basket is a recipe for disaster for many reasons that have already been documented on this site.

 

[maqnetik]

if you have to ask then it cant be explained... and i have NO IDEA why someone else would care how another chooses to live their life when its not hurting anybody else.

 

[DonGorgon]

so that marriage is more viable and kids have a stronger two parent support system..

 

[Razor Sharp]

I don't get why young men desire a serious relationship. I want to experience many pretty women in and out of bed. Not to mention putting all your eggs in one basket is a recipe for disaster for many reasons that have already been documented on this site.

Really there is no right or wrong here, you could argue pros and cons for either lifestyle choice.

Like a monogamous dude would wonder why other guys want to be so promiscuous considering the large quantity of STD's out there that a condom doesn't do jack sh*t to protect. My brother has always used jimmy hats but was a ridiculous man-wh*re, and now has genital warts on his nuts. There's always wins & losses no matter what you choose.

Personally I think that a healthy man must have balance and perspective to choose accordingly.

The part of your post I agree most with is bolded:

I don't get why young men desire a serious relationship

If you have a good perspective on life, you understand that the opportunities and variety in front of you from age 18-25 just will not be repeated as you get older - plus your sex drive will naturally peter out due to decreases in testosterone levels. As such it makes logical sense to have superficial relationships as a young fella, and get as much ass as you can because if you don't it will seriously impair your ability to be faithful as you wonder "what if" and live your later years in regret.

Having said that it is natural for men to crave a deeper companionship with a woman. And being in an LTR teaches you lessons you won't learn from a string of endless ONS. I know this one guy who has been a player his whole life. He finally found a woman worth settling with now and he's 38. Sounds ideal right? The only problem is that he has no clue how to manage a committed relationship and makes all kinds of rookie mistakes. As a result he is pretty close to losing the one woman worth building a future with.

So there is some merit to having a few relationship disasters when you are young - if you are smart you use them as lesson to cultivate the types of relationships that actually work for you.

As for why ANY man would want to get serious - it's our biological drive to not only build our worlds, but a family to share it with. People like to say that we are just animals and it's society which forces us to be monogamous. But that theory is not consistent with the scores of other mammals living in wilderness who also choose life partners.

Sometimes you just find someone that no one else can compare to. In such a case it's not an issue of blind romance, but a sound investment in your future.

Personally I hope to find such a woman - the difference between me and the average chump is that I'm not holding my breath waiting for her to show up (or thinking that the first girl who opens her legs HAS to be her)

 

[runningonice]

I don't get the point of putting all your stock into a young woman who could very well just cut her hair short and put on 20 lbs in a year. At least if you settle down in your 30s or 40s, and the woman is still pretty and in shape, she's proven that she can stand the test of time.

 

[runningonice]

I have limited options at the moment, but I'd rather be single than stuck with the same woman. I'm working out so I can get the type of body that a majority of women like so I can be the guy they use for sex.