What's the mature way to end things?

[tryst type]

Been with a girl for almost six months now.
I've lost attraction for her somehow and want to break things off.
I don't want to be an ******* and give that reason bc she's a really nice girl.
She lives an hour away, should I use the distance as a reason? It does have something to do with it as well.

 

[Warrior74]

using the distance as an excuse...seriously? That's not really mature is it?

Just tell her point blank, you think she's great but you want know it's not going to work out between you two and you want to date other people. Just be upright about it.

Of course if your not that brave, just dial back contact and visits down to zero and then when she asks what's going on tell her your moving on.

 

[speed dawg]

Just tell her point blank, you think she's great but you want know it's not going to work out between you two and you want to date other people. Just be upright about it.

Bingo. And she'll probably be upset, but will get over it quicker. And if you had a real relationship with her, don't try to keep her on as a plate. Have enough respect for her to cut her loose, let her heal for her own sake. Don't be like all the branch-swinging girls we talk about here.

And another thing that goes without saying, make sure you're doing what you really want to do here.

 

[tryst type]

What's the best way to bring this up?

 

[speed dawg]

There is no best way. All options suck equally.

 

[Colossus]

Six months is awhile. Be kind about it...you say she's a nice girl.

Best thing to do is just straight-up tell her your heart isnt in it and you need to move on. Dont do the no contact thing; that's only for casual flings and situations that have gone terribly awry.

 

[iqqi]

Never say "you are a nice girl". How awful.

Tell her that you do not want to be in a committed relationship with her, that you respect her too much to "move on" without letting her know.

But don't tell her she is "a nice girl". That is terrible!

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Tryst,
She does seem a very nice Girl,that makes it harder,I usually let them think they are off loading me,makes it easier....To give an excuse like distance,No,no,no....How would you feel if she tosses her job in and moves to your town?A woman in love might do that you know,If you don't want to tell her that you are seeing someone else,then come straight out with it,over coffee face to face then leave....cut all contact after that....All contact.

 

[Allurre]

Distance is a plausible reason.

Man up. Tell her you're going to be very honest with how you're feeling lately.
Don't be afraid to unveil the truth. She will respect and appreciate you for it, even after she gets dumped.

Nothing lasts forever.