"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Whats the deal with this girl?

Dole

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Met this girl at school (at the library), made plans with her twice. Both times she gave me the run around that she is busy. On second attempt of trying to make plans with her she offered to "reschedule once again". I just said "Nah thats okay see you around at school".

She knows I am in the library lots because thats where I hang out and study. Her presents at the library increased ever since I denied her. I haven't talked to her yet but she keeps looking over at me to see if I am starring at her, we have locked eye contact several times and I have always been the first one to look away. Furthermore when ever she walks into the library and I am already there sitting down she would come sit a table or two away from me, for example today she was sitting a table behind me.

What does this girl want from me? Does she really expect me to initiate contact with her first...?
I am not going to lie, she is an average girl for me and she probably sees more in me then I see in her.
What is the best thing to do here, initiate contact with her first or just keep on doing what I am doing and she will eventually talk to me or maybe she wont?
 
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You offered to hang out twice, and she didn't say yes? Her loss. IMHO, if she's really into you, she'll make contact.
 

MisterMcGee

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Kinda had this happen to me. Yeah, it's kinda 'weird' to deal with. Go and approach her again to ask her out again, or ask her why she keeps staring at you (in a funny way).
 
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