"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What's the big deal about Bachelor TV show?

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I am curious about the TV show , the Bachelor.
Why are those women compete against each other fiercely just to date the guy?

What's the big deal about dating the bachelor?

Are these women for real? They look like actresses to me. They also look like models.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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picard said:
I am curious about the TV show , the Bachelor.
Why are those women compete against each other fiercely just to date the guy?

What's the big deal about dating the bachelor?

Are these women for real? They look like actresses to me. They also look like models.
Women's primary reason for going on television show such is this is to get exposure, its a stepping stone for them to get discovered and hopefully make it in Hollywood. What better way to get attention then to appear on television in front of millions!??

Majority of what you see in those so called "reality shows" is contrived and scripted.

The bachleor is supposed to be a so called "big catch" that woman go after. They often select a good looking dude with money. However the joke on those women is the fact that the bachelor almost never ends up marrying any of the women and probably just fvcks a whole lot of them and leaves. You can't blame the guy after all, I mean the show is like a prostitution service for the bachleor by getting him some good looking pvssy to pick and choose from across the country.

In essence the tv show the Bachelor is like Porn for women.
 

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I agree, they are contrived and scripted to an extent, but I would be willing to bet that due to the nature of women that they DO indeed get caught up in the competitive aspect of it and probably do develop feelings for the guy for thsi fact alone.

I was watching one of those goofy chick shows one night "The City" (dont ask me why) and it is blatantly obvious that there are producers or SOMEONE telling members of the cast that other members are talking sh!t about them behind their back just to stir up controversy.
 

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Funny story--

Remember the original Bachelor, Ryan Sutter? My dad is the chief at the fire dept where he works. Has nothing but good things to say about him; I guess he's a super stand-up guy. He's still married to that chick who 'won' on the original show. They have 2 or 3 kids. The guy really doesnt need to work as a firefighter, I guess he makes a ton modeling and doing public appearances and what not.

I think that show is a great case example of competition anxiety. A lot of it is contrived, for sure, but you get a look at how cutthroat competing women can be.

On a side note, 'the Bachelorette' cast is comprised of some of the biggest tools to walk the earth. What self-respecting Man would go on a prime-time t.v. show and compete for ONE woman?! Never compete; let them choose you.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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where does the bachelor get the money to marry the girl? is he a millionaire before sign up to the show?
 

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"What's the big deal about Bachelor TV show?"

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Let me break it down into three easily understandable words: RATINGS and REVENUE
Uh all you did was repeat the question.
 

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t & p are cartoon characters on south park.
 

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how do I get to become the bachelor on the show? What kind of sh*t do I have to make up to get on the show?

Does the show make up false history for the bachelor?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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