the thin black duke
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thinking about starting the online thing, but want to know what is the best online site and where have most of you, who do the online thang, have had the most success? 
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
the thin black duke said:thinking about starting the online thing, but want to know what is the best online site and where have most of you, who do the online thang, have had the most success?![]()
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Like both you and unorthodox said, women on pay sites are typically more serious; they have invested money in hopes of finding the right guy (even if it averages to only $2 a week). What have MySpace members antied up? What have they got to lose? They get tons of attention without having to put up anything more than a picture. However, women on pay sites are more particular (and men should be too) since they have invested money into the venture.Driven2Succeed said:...usually the pay sites are the best, and you are most likely to meet women because they are actually paying for the service.
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Yes you are half right. But Dating sites give you opportunity to know more, and the only purpose is to get them out for a real date.crossboss said:I think it is better to talk to girls in person. Not on a online site like myspace. It doesn't take much skill to get girls interested in you there. The real skill is doing it in real life.