"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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what's the best dating site..?

the thin black duke

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thinking about starting the online thing, but want to know what is the best online site and where have most of you, who do the online thang, have had the most success? :cool:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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DJinTraining06

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the thin black duke said:
thinking about starting the online thing, but want to know what is the best online site and where have most of you, who do the online thang, have had the most success? :cool:

Ive met 8 on match.com. I didnt like 5 of em. 2 didnt like me. 1 worked out but i blew it with stupidity. Out of the 8 tho, 2 were hot, 3 were cute, 2 were not as good lookin as their pic and kinda ugly. 1 was butt ugly, the pic lied big time. Ive gotten tons of screennames, some very cute, a couple i wouldnt meet cuz they seem insane or annoyign and im not just after a lay so i avoided it.

Dont use Yahoo Personals, it sux. Poor quality of women, they dont respond as much either for some reason, and its just not as easy to use as match. Eharmony is an absoulte waste of money, looked into it its retarted. Lavalife doesnt have enuff people in it. Myspace is for kids usually. im 25 i still try once in while on mysapce, but im gettin a lil old for myspace chicks.
 

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adultfriendfinder.com lol.. yea great quality girls on there..

usually the pay sites are the best, and you are most likely to meet women because they are actually paying for the service.

i had pretty decent success on Yahoo Personals.. but I was in an area that didn't have many girls in the 18-24 range.. which kinda limited my choice..

scout it before you pay..
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Driven2Succeed said:
...usually the pay sites are the best, and you are most likely to meet women because they are actually paying for the service.
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Like both you and unorthodox said, women on pay sites are typically more serious; they have invested money in hopes of finding the right guy (even if it averages to only $2 a week). What have MySpace members antied up? What have they got to lose? They get tons of attention without having to put up anything more than a picture. However, women on pay sites are more particular (and men should be too) since they have invested money into the venture.
 

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I think it is better to talk to girls in person. Not on a online site like myspace. It doesn't take much skill to get girls interested in you there. The real skill is doing it in real life.
 

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crossboss said:
I think it is better to talk to girls in person. Not on a online site like myspace. It doesn't take much skill to get girls interested in you there. The real skill is doing it in real life.
Yes you are half right. But Dating sites give you opportunity to know more, and the only purpose is to get them out for a real date.

Then there's where you talk to them in person.
 

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I see dating sites in the same way, its just another avenue to meet women, it has nothing to do with your field skills or lack there of, its not the devil nor the ultimate solution.

Personally I prefer to move to meeting IRL asap, chatting via email and actually interacting in person is completely different, and I find spending 5 weeks and 500 emails before actually getting a date extremely annoying and time-wasting!

Personally I find women on dating sites/in personals super pickey and very flakey, maybe becuase they are spoiled for choice, but its still worth a look.
 
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