"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So I texted a girl im talking to, to ask if she wanted to come over to watch a movie i rented...her reply was "I'd be willing to go out to a movie if there's anything you wanna see"

what is she implying? any thoughts, i have a few but id like to hear what everyone else has to say about this.

ps. this would be our official 2nd date. but we've been talking quite a lot on the txts.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I think she is saying she would rather go to the movie theatre. Maybe, also hiting a movie she has been wanting to see? Maybe, the new sex and the city movie...
 

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verysuave said:
quit texting ALOT
lol....dude. she texts me a lot. girls text a lot!

and she just texted me that she just likes to go out and she wants to see a horror flick......so thats always :up:
 

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DonS said:
Now the question is why in the hell are you talking "quite a lot" on txt? Be a mystery; be busy attracting other women; etc. If you're not careful, this txt stuff could be your downfall. Call on the phone; set-up a date; get off the phone within 5 minutes; do your DJ gaming in person on the date! Trust me on this one.
Thanks Don I'll definitely have to start txting less...ill just tell her im running out of txts so then it will have to result in us actually hearing each others voice, besides hearing someones voice is much better than getting a stupid text IMO.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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you know, there is nothing wrong with texting at all! everyone text now adays, its a preferable thing to do. but only if you guys are having good converesations when you guys are seeing each other in person... if youre someone who she loves to talk to, then she may just think you're someone who hates the phone, and that's ok.
 

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the point here is to make her FEEL that she isn't the only v@gina in the world without TELLING her
 

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yama600rr said:
you know, there is nothing wrong with texting at all! everyone text now adays, its a preferable thing to do. but only if you guys are having good converesations when you guys are seeing each other in person... if youre someone who she loves to talk to, then she may just think you're someone who hates the phone, and that's ok.

valid point.
 

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verysuave said:
the point here is to make her FEEL that she isn't the only v@gina in the world without TELLING her
well you could do that and look like a total player to her, which sure some stupid @$$ girls like or just do what some of the others were saying and keep it "mystery style" which makes you look like you are just really busy and other things are going on other than her...you know just keeping conversations light on the phone until you are with her in person, which does the same thing without making you look like a player.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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