Well long story short, i met a girl. definite interesting coming from her side. lots of kino involved. shes always having a great time and laughing while with me. my question is, im ready to have my first real relationship, and i plan on asking her after a while but i dont know how to go about it. never asked someone to be my gf before so idont know how to approach it. advice?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
What's my next move?
- Thread starter Oni
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
IceCream
Don Juan
Don't do it, if you really like this girl, dont ask until she literally brings up being exclusive.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
Exactly.IceCream said:
Start seeing her two or more times a week, and doing stuff, and it will feel like it to her, then she'll ask.
Yeah i agree. If she wants a relationship you'll know it for sure. (cause she'll request it)IceCream said:
Don't worry about it though, focus your energy on just having fun, and go ahead and have sex with her .(from your post doesn't sound like you've even done that yet) Whatever you do don't be needy for a relationship.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
amoka
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Coming from one "exclusive" relation, I would advice you to never commit to a woman exclusively until you know you are ready. I may never commit until maybe in my late 50s....
Don't ask her to be exclusive. Even if she brings it up, tell her you're not ready to be exclusive and simply enjoy the ride or RUN!
Don't ask her to be exclusive. Even if she brings it up, tell her you're not ready to be exclusive and simply enjoy the ride or RUN!
alright, form what most ppl posted, it seems i have to wait for her to ask for it. will do that. the thing is i thought if u stick around a girl too much without making your move, you enter her friend zone or something like that
JDA70 said:
I agree. We are acting like girls are the enemy. They are human too just like us. How much time do we have to sit around and wait? If the girl likes him and the stuff they do together, she'll definitely say "yes". If she doesn't, she'll say "no, you are boring".
I'd go for it. You wait around and she meets Brad, you're in trouble.
DonJuan11 said:
All were saying is that when a guy has developed himself into a good catch he'll have girls always trying to course him into a relationship. From what he posted it doesn't seem like this girl is doing that. Also wanting to be in a relationship, thinking about how you can "get her to be" your gf etc is coming from the wrong frame of mind in my opinion.
And Oni i think your confused, if your worried about getting into friendship zone. Were not advising you to sit around with her all eager hoping she'll suggest a relationship. You should be already having sex with this girl and should be in a f*uck buddy setup with her right now. If your sexually involved with her then friendzone isn't going to be an issue. Just HAVE SEX with her asap!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.