Well long story short, i met a girl. definite interesting coming from her side. lots of kino involved. shes always having a great time and laughing while with me. my question is, im ready to have my first real relationship, and i plan on asking her after a while but i dont know how to go about it. never asked someone to be my gf before so idont know how to approach it. advice?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
What's my next move?
- Thread starter Oni
- Start date
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
IceCream
Don Juan
Don't do it, if you really like this girl, dont ask until she literally brings up being exclusive.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
Exactly.IceCream said:
Start seeing her two or more times a week, and doing stuff, and it will feel like it to her, then she'll ask.
Yeah i agree. If she wants a relationship you'll know it for sure. (cause she'll request it)IceCream said:
Don't worry about it though, focus your energy on just having fun, and go ahead and have sex with her .(from your post doesn't sound like you've even done that yet) Whatever you do don't be needy for a relationship.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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Coming from one "exclusive" relation, I would advice you to never commit to a woman exclusively until you know you are ready. I may never commit until maybe in my late 50s....
Don't ask her to be exclusive. Even if she brings it up, tell her you're not ready to be exclusive and simply enjoy the ride or RUN!
Don't ask her to be exclusive. Even if she brings it up, tell her you're not ready to be exclusive and simply enjoy the ride or RUN!
alright, form what most ppl posted, it seems i have to wait for her to ask for it. will do that. the thing is i thought if u stick around a girl too much without making your move, you enter her friend zone or something like that
JDA70 said:
I agree. We are acting like girls are the enemy. They are human too just like us. How much time do we have to sit around and wait? If the girl likes him and the stuff they do together, she'll definitely say "yes". If she doesn't, she'll say "no, you are boring".
I'd go for it. You wait around and she meets Brad, you're in trouble.
DonJuan11 said:
All were saying is that when a guy has developed himself into a good catch he'll have girls always trying to course him into a relationship. From what he posted it doesn't seem like this girl is doing that. Also wanting to be in a relationship, thinking about how you can "get her to be" your gf etc is coming from the wrong frame of mind in my opinion.
And Oni i think your confused, if your worried about getting into friendship zone. Were not advising you to sit around with her all eager hoping she'll suggest a relationship. You should be already having sex with this girl and should be in a f*uck buddy setup with her right now. If your sexually involved with her then friendzone isn't going to be an issue. Just HAVE SEX with her asap!
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.