"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Whats Her Problem?

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hey guys

so at school i gave this chick the ljbf's and it worked out well for 1 day last week, then she started *****ing that i was ignoring her...

ok tell me if what iam doing is ignoring her:

i see her in corridors i just smile politely and keep on going where ever the hell im going, i see her in class ill make some small chat (rarely however, i really dont like talking to her as much now- this is normal for a little while though isnt it?)

now i like flirting with most girls at my school, well the ones worth flirting with and today she saw me flirting with a certain girl and the next class we had together she passes me a note saying "why are you ignoring me blach blah blah, i just thought i'd get this off my chest, blah blah blah"

my reaction to this was very minimal i was just thinking WTF does she want me to do? i like girls to work for my attention and this chick just thinks cause we've hooked up in the past im going to drop everything im doing when ever i see her and give her the attention she seeks?

so advice please guys?

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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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This is a good sign. This is her telling you that she's obviously jealous of other girls getting what she COULD have. The trick is to earn some more points now by flirting with her, but always running the conversation. There should never be a time when you do not feel like you have control of what is said. She should be the one laughing and in awe, not you. Girls want to be filled with funny and positive thoughts, they don't like filling us up with them. With that said, do not come off as caring too much. Show her you are a funny, unique guy who can make her feel good and then step away and let her think about it for a few days.
 
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If she asks:
"Making friends, meeting girls...the usual stuff. Thats good right? Comon, you should be happy for me. I mean, that's what a good friend would do...Thanks anyway, crap, I really gotta go, Jane *Insert Girl's Name Here* is waiting for me. Listen, it was great talking to you, call me later."
Just run it through, pause for breaths, but just ignore her replies. Sends a great signal. After that, you can reinitiate contact in a flirting manner.

-Damian
 
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hmm well today at school i flirted with her a little, we talked a bit and then she went a bit defensive and asked me where my girlfriend from yesterday was (chick she saw me flirting with yesterday) i simply replied "shes around...somewhere" gave her a wink and walked off
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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penkitten said:
stop playing mind games with her.
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She's jealous and seemingly very attracted; it has nothing to do with "mind games."
 
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DJ4Real said:
She's jealous and seemingly very attracted; it has nothing to do with "mind games."
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you titled this thread "whats her problem"?
her problem is that you are playing a mind game called "hot and cold".
you have hooked up in the past with her and now you are ignoring her acting as if you have never hooked up with her and you are only friends.
you are sending her the message that she isnt important and that you could care less for her. as a desperate attempt to get your attention (with what she will refer to as "finding out what is going on") she writes you a note and wants to know why you are ignoring her.
either you like her or you dont like her. just tell her and stop trying to make her feel jealous, because she might not chase you forever and just might set her sights on someone else.
 
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If you want her, you have her in a good position. Just keep the flirting on until she's begging for you. Then bone her.

If you don't want her, this is just fine. Just make sure to ignore her so the b!tching stops.
 
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penkitten said:
you titled this thread "whats her problem"?
her problem is that you are playing a mind game called "hot and cold".
you have hooked up in the past with her and now you are ignoring her acting as if you have never hooked up with her and you are only friends.
you are sending her the message that she isnt important and that you could care less for her. as a desperate attempt to get your attention (with what she will refer to as "finding out what is going on") she writes you a note and wants to know why you are ignoring her.
either you like her or you dont like her. just tell her and stop trying to make her feel jealous, because she might not chase you forever and just might set her sights on someone else.
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Actually, I didn't title anything..I'm not even in this situation..This is Casanova's topic and situation....I'd very highly suggest that you read before you post...and It's not a mind game...of course, if you are a girl, then you would more than likely take it as a mind game. Don't try to blame him for someone else's jealousy.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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i meant he titled the thread.

and yes it is a mind game. if she were doing it to him, you would be telling him it was a mind game. it doesnt seem like shes very jealous, she just doesnt really know what is going on. here he is hooking up with her and then ignoring her afterwards and it appears that he used her in this girls eyes. then he is flirting with other girls in front of her so he can make her jealous, which just makes this girl wonder wtf is going on.
 
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i meant he titled the thread.

and yes it is a mind game. if she were doing it to him, you would be telling him it was a mind game. it doesnt seem like shes very jealous, she just doesnt really know what is going on. here he is hooking up with her and then ignoring her afterwards and it appears that he used her in this girls eyes. then he is flirting with other girls in front of her so he can make her jealous, which just makes this girl wonder wtf is going on.
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Nah, I wouldn't say that it was a "mind game" if it were visa versa.

Her wondering "wtf is going on"....that's called mystery. Mystery is an element of attraction.
 
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