"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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hey guys

so at school i gave this chick the ljbf's and it worked out well for 1 day last week, then she started *****ing that i was ignoring her...

ok tell me if what iam doing is ignoring her:

i see her in corridors i just smile politely and keep on going where ever the hell im going, i see her in class ill make some small chat (rarely however, i really dont like talking to her as much now- this is normal for a little while though isnt it?)

now i like flirting with most girls at my school, well the ones worth flirting with and today she saw me flirting with a certain girl and the next class we had together she passes me a note saying "why are you ignoring me blach blah blah, i just thought i'd get this off my chest, blah blah blah"

my reaction to this was very minimal i was just thinking WTF does she want me to do? i like girls to work for my attention and this chick just thinks cause we've hooked up in the past im going to drop everything im doing when ever i see her and give her the attention she seeks?

so advice please guys?

thankyou.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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This is a good sign. This is her telling you that she's obviously jealous of other girls getting what she COULD have. The trick is to earn some more points now by flirting with her, but always running the conversation. There should never be a time when you do not feel like you have control of what is said. She should be the one laughing and in awe, not you. Girls want to be filled with funny and positive thoughts, they don't like filling us up with them. With that said, do not come off as caring too much. Show her you are a funny, unique guy who can make her feel good and then step away and let her think about it for a few days.
 
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If she asks:
"Making friends, meeting girls...the usual stuff. Thats good right? Comon, you should be happy for me. I mean, that's what a good friend would do...Thanks anyway, crap, I really gotta go, Jane *Insert Girl's Name Here* is waiting for me. Listen, it was great talking to you, call me later."
Just run it through, pause for breaths, but just ignore her replies. Sends a great signal. After that, you can reinitiate contact in a flirting manner.

-Damian
 
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hmm well today at school i flirted with her a little, we talked a bit and then she went a bit defensive and asked me where my girlfriend from yesterday was (chick she saw me flirting with yesterday) i simply replied "shes around...somewhere" gave her a wink and walked off
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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penkitten said:
stop playing mind games with her.
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She's jealous and seemingly very attracted; it has nothing to do with "mind games."
 
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DJ4Real said:
She's jealous and seemingly very attracted; it has nothing to do with "mind games."
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you titled this thread "whats her problem"?
her problem is that you are playing a mind game called "hot and cold".
you have hooked up in the past with her and now you are ignoring her acting as if you have never hooked up with her and you are only friends.
you are sending her the message that she isnt important and that you could care less for her. as a desperate attempt to get your attention (with what she will refer to as "finding out what is going on") she writes you a note and wants to know why you are ignoring her.
either you like her or you dont like her. just tell her and stop trying to make her feel jealous, because she might not chase you forever and just might set her sights on someone else.
 
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If you want her, you have her in a good position. Just keep the flirting on until she's begging for you. Then bone her.

If you don't want her, this is just fine. Just make sure to ignore her so the b!tching stops.
 
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penkitten said:
you titled this thread "whats her problem"?
her problem is that you are playing a mind game called "hot and cold".
you have hooked up in the past with her and now you are ignoring her acting as if you have never hooked up with her and you are only friends.
you are sending her the message that she isnt important and that you could care less for her. as a desperate attempt to get your attention (with what she will refer to as "finding out what is going on") she writes you a note and wants to know why you are ignoring her.
either you like her or you dont like her. just tell her and stop trying to make her feel jealous, because she might not chase you forever and just might set her sights on someone else.
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Actually, I didn't title anything..I'm not even in this situation..This is Casanova's topic and situation....I'd very highly suggest that you read before you post...and It's not a mind game...of course, if you are a girl, then you would more than likely take it as a mind game. Don't try to blame him for someone else's jealousy.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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i meant he titled the thread.

and yes it is a mind game. if she were doing it to him, you would be telling him it was a mind game. it doesnt seem like shes very jealous, she just doesnt really know what is going on. here he is hooking up with her and then ignoring her afterwards and it appears that he used her in this girls eyes. then he is flirting with other girls in front of her so he can make her jealous, which just makes this girl wonder wtf is going on.
 
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penkitten said:
i meant he titled the thread.

and yes it is a mind game. if she were doing it to him, you would be telling him it was a mind game. it doesnt seem like shes very jealous, she just doesnt really know what is going on. here he is hooking up with her and then ignoring her afterwards and it appears that he used her in this girls eyes. then he is flirting with other girls in front of her so he can make her jealous, which just makes this girl wonder wtf is going on.
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Nah, I wouldn't say that it was a "mind game" if it were visa versa.

Her wondering "wtf is going on"....that's called mystery. Mystery is an element of attraction.
 
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