She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Well since you're complaining about not bringing a random girl home even though you claim you could means that's what you really wanted anyways. Why do you have a girlfriend if you can just pick up a chick and get with her when that's all you want to do?john paul said:She just really just ****ed me over tonight becasue if i was single i could of left with whatever girl i had the best time with but instead I have a girlfriend and she didnt feel like spending a little alone time with me.
Yea I was invited but shes in the grade below me and I dont enjoy hanging out with her friends, and no she didnt come over later that night. After dropping her off I made the most of my night and went to a party my friend was having which was good but not as good as some *****.I.A.F.Y.B. said:So, after the dance she wanted to go to her friends house to watch a movie... Were you invited and why didn't you watch it with her? Did you just not want to hang out with them? But, she came back to your place for bedroom time. Did you fvck her? Was she being extra pleasurable to you or acting out of the ordinary after being with her friends? Maybe, you should put you foot down and said; "No, we are doing 'this' tonight."
Yea thanks for reminding me and there was accually was an ex of hers there which I dont like but someone would tell me if she did anything which i know she wouldn't. I'v made it clear I don't give second chances and I know she likes me a lot, thats why i wasnt worried when she said guys were there but ill be sure to ask my friend, who was there, if she was talking to her ex any.KontrollerX said:Well if she keeps p!ssing you off just do what chicks do and get a little something on the side and if it proves to be better cut the dead weight.
Also about the guys being at her friends house...
Always keep in mind dude that even if you look at some guys and say what a bunch of douche bags and think to yourself they are harmless a girl ie your girl may not view them the same way.
Just something to keep in mind.
Because i like this girl more than other girls. Shes a little bit more than a piece of ass to me.BoredDude said:Well since you're complaining about not bringing a random girl home even though you claim you could means that's what you really wanted anyways. Why do you have a girlfriend if you can just pick up a chick and get with her when that's all you want to do?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.