I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Well since you're complaining about not bringing a random girl home even though you claim you could means that's what you really wanted anyways. Why do you have a girlfriend if you can just pick up a chick and get with her when that's all you want to do?john paul said:She just really just ****ed me over tonight becasue if i was single i could of left with whatever girl i had the best time with but instead I have a girlfriend and she didnt feel like spending a little alone time with me.
Yea I was invited but shes in the grade below me and I dont enjoy hanging out with her friends, and no she didnt come over later that night. After dropping her off I made the most of my night and went to a party my friend was having which was good but not as good as some *****.I.A.F.Y.B. said:So, after the dance she wanted to go to her friends house to watch a movie... Were you invited and why didn't you watch it with her? Did you just not want to hang out with them? But, she came back to your place for bedroom time. Did you fvck her? Was she being extra pleasurable to you or acting out of the ordinary after being with her friends? Maybe, you should put you foot down and said; "No, we are doing 'this' tonight."
Yea thanks for reminding me and there was accually was an ex of hers there which I dont like but someone would tell me if she did anything which i know she wouldn't. I'v made it clear I don't give second chances and I know she likes me a lot, thats why i wasnt worried when she said guys were there but ill be sure to ask my friend, who was there, if she was talking to her ex any.KontrollerX said:Well if she keeps p!ssing you off just do what chicks do and get a little something on the side and if it proves to be better cut the dead weight.
Also about the guys being at her friends house...
Always keep in mind dude that even if you look at some guys and say what a bunch of douche bags and think to yourself they are harmless a girl ie your girl may not view them the same way.
Just something to keep in mind.
Because i like this girl more than other girls. Shes a little bit more than a piece of ass to me.BoredDude said:Well since you're complaining about not bringing a random girl home even though you claim you could means that's what you really wanted anyways. Why do you have a girlfriend if you can just pick up a chick and get with her when that's all you want to do?
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.