flyingpanda505
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Topic pretty much says it all, lol
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
+1. Don't make a big deal out of it if you truly want to know the story. She'll tell you once you don't want to know anymore. By not questioning or jumping to conclusions, you are doing what 99.9% of guys don't do - thus, setting you apart from the croud and making her think: "Wow, he remains so calm and relaxed when I don't tell him things."I.A.F.Y.B. said:Say; Oh
Then, ask about something else.
QFTRandallpink83 said:then say... "I'm gonna stick my d!ck up your arse"... works everytime!
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
ch-ching. yes yes.Alexander the Great said:"It's OK if you don't want to tell me. I... understand."
Then switch to another topic and grab hold of it as if you've totally forgotten what she was talking about. Keep smiling in the meantime, appear as if nothing's wrong. Watch what happens. If she tries to get back to the topic and tell a little more, she's actually trying to please you now and carefully tests the waters to see if she can convince you to listen anyway. Because she thinks she insulted you with that "long story" remark. If no such thing happens, you know what time it is.
Don't offer to listen. Don't. Ever. Do That.
Not unless she's your girlfriend, or unless you want to be hers.