"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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So basically, I gamed this girl this past weekend that was an 8.5, had a great conversation and her dream school is the one I am currently at. She will probably visit over the summer and I want to do this right. I have her number and she told me to facebook her so I did. She replied with a

"hey! it was good talking to you this weekend.. are you back at berkeley now?"

I want to have response that will prompt more converstaion somehow because I dont want this to be another "2 facebook wallpost and never talk again" thing. Should I reiterate something we talked about? Joke? Tell her to hit me up when she visits?

Whats the best way to approach this? God she has nice breasties. Thanks in advance.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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you got her number right? forget facebook then, its way to impersonal. call her up talk to her instead of using text.
 
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Hmm... I guess this is my sticking point... I only talked with her for like 30-40 minutes this past weekend so I think it would be kinda weird for me to call her out of the blue especially because I am back at school now and 500 miles away. If I do call her do I make an excuse as to why I am calling her? lol. I dont know how to handle this.
 
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excuse for calling? you dont need an excuse just a reason to invite her back, use ur imagination. tell her that she really piqued ur interest and wanted to meet up again. but dont use word for word what i said put it in your style that works for you. give her a reason to come back to you is what im trying to say i guess. if not keep you girls local its easier to connect.
 
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excuse for calling? you dont need an excuse just a reason to invite her back, use ur imagination. tell her that she really piqued ur interest and wanted to meet up again. but dont use word for word what i said put it in your style that works for you. give her a reason to come back to you is what im trying to say i guess. if not keep you girls local its easier to connect.
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Totally agree with the post, ring her and give NO excuse, ring her when your in a good and fun mood and talk about something your both in2 or whatever.

When a girl first moves to university, I notice theyre incredibly open to finding a bf and often get into intense relationships with people, you could set yourself up with her pretty easily if you dont overcomplicate this and think negatively, Good luck!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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damnit... my confidence just isnt there yet... which is ironic because I can talk to her fine when I am talking face to face...

but yeah im not even gonna make an excuse why I shouldnt call her... im just gonna be frank and say I dont have the confidence because i have never done it before... fudgepacker... yap this is my sticking point...

if I do decide to grow some balls one of these days... i will let you guys know ... haha ...
 
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Just call her dude, don't over think it. I know this used to be one of my biggest problem. Now I call her just to say what's up and how the weather inspired me to put a cowboy hat on and I just had to share that with her.

Lol seriously, if you can laugh at yourself you're fine. Don't be afraid to escalate and move it up a notch when you talk to her, if she denies it play it off like it was nothing, which it shouldn't be.
 
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