"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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So basically, I gamed this girl this past weekend that was an 8.5, had a great conversation and her dream school is the one I am currently at. She will probably visit over the summer and I want to do this right. I have her number and she told me to facebook her so I did. She replied with a

"hey! it was good talking to you this weekend.. are you back at berkeley now?"

I want to have response that will prompt more converstaion somehow because I dont want this to be another "2 facebook wallpost and never talk again" thing. Should I reiterate something we talked about? Joke? Tell her to hit me up when she visits?

Whats the best way to approach this? God she has nice breasties. Thanks in advance.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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you got her number right? forget facebook then, its way to impersonal. call her up talk to her instead of using text.
 
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Hmm... I guess this is my sticking point... I only talked with her for like 30-40 minutes this past weekend so I think it would be kinda weird for me to call her out of the blue especially because I am back at school now and 500 miles away. If I do call her do I make an excuse as to why I am calling her? lol. I dont know how to handle this.
 
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excuse for calling? you dont need an excuse just a reason to invite her back, use ur imagination. tell her that she really piqued ur interest and wanted to meet up again. but dont use word for word what i said put it in your style that works for you. give her a reason to come back to you is what im trying to say i guess. if not keep you girls local its easier to connect.
 
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3rdeye said:
excuse for calling? you dont need an excuse just a reason to invite her back, use ur imagination. tell her that she really piqued ur interest and wanted to meet up again. but dont use word for word what i said put it in your style that works for you. give her a reason to come back to you is what im trying to say i guess. if not keep you girls local its easier to connect.
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Totally agree with the post, ring her and give NO excuse, ring her when your in a good and fun mood and talk about something your both in2 or whatever.

When a girl first moves to university, I notice theyre incredibly open to finding a bf and often get into intense relationships with people, you could set yourself up with her pretty easily if you dont overcomplicate this and think negatively, Good luck!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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damnit... my confidence just isnt there yet... which is ironic because I can talk to her fine when I am talking face to face...

but yeah im not even gonna make an excuse why I shouldnt call her... im just gonna be frank and say I dont have the confidence because i have never done it before... fudgepacker... yap this is my sticking point...

if I do decide to grow some balls one of these days... i will let you guys know ... haha ...
 
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Just call her dude, don't over think it. I know this used to be one of my biggest problem. Now I call her just to say what's up and how the weather inspired me to put a cowboy hat on and I just had to share that with her.

Lol seriously, if you can laugh at yourself you're fine. Don't be afraid to escalate and move it up a notch when you talk to her, if she denies it play it off like it was nothing, which it shouldn't be.
 
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