"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Intrakit98

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Alright so there's this girl who works at my office as the receptionist. She's quite attractive and I wouldn't mind getting to know her. I maintain an attitude that I could care less and have my own thing going on, which I do. However she's sending somewhat mixed signals. When I asked for her number she gave it to me which naturally means that she's interested, I get it. And when I asked her if she wanted to have coffee she said sure but that she's really busy. So I said how about I text her about the specifics. She claims that she's bad with cell phones/txts. I texted her a couple of times and she gets back to me 3 or 4 days later. I can't believe that she's really that bad with cell phones not to answer my text. I'm thinkin since this girl is attractive she has a social life, so she must use her phone to keep up with her friends right? When she texted me 4 days later she said that she was really busy. She didn't even acknowledge the fact that I wanted to meet her for coffee. When I engage in small talk she offers information about herself that I didn't ask for.
Is she really interested or should I just drop this and move on? Any insights would be helpful.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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You're sending multiple texts and calling her, and she's taking almost a week to get back to you, and then she's not interested in setting up any sort of arrangement to meet up.

That's called a hint. Take the hint. She's not interested.

Where is the mixed signal? That she gave you her number? You two work together, so it'd probably be pretty awkward if she refused to give it to you. Instead, she's letting you know, without being a BTCH about it, that she's not interested in seeing you outside of work.
 
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Berlex

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^What he said. Drop it dude, she's not interested.

"I asked for her number she gave it to me which naturally means that she's interested" Nah, like Deadly Ripped said, it'd be pretty awkward if she didn't give it.
 
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Why are you posting this in the tips section? When i come here i want to read about new thoughts and ideas that helped people. Not whats causing you grief.
By the way stop trying to figure out what this or any other girl thinks of you thats why you felt the need to start this thread
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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As soon as she said that "She claims that she's bad with cell phones/txts" it was game over.. u should of known that.. no more chasing from there.
 
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