"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Intrakit98

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Alright so there's this girl who works at my office as the receptionist. She's quite attractive and I wouldn't mind getting to know her. I maintain an attitude that I could care less and have my own thing going on, which I do. However she's sending somewhat mixed signals. When I asked for her number she gave it to me which naturally means that she's interested, I get it. And when I asked her if she wanted to have coffee she said sure but that she's really busy. So I said how about I text her about the specifics. She claims that she's bad with cell phones/txts. I texted her a couple of times and she gets back to me 3 or 4 days later. I can't believe that she's really that bad with cell phones not to answer my text. I'm thinkin since this girl is attractive she has a social life, so she must use her phone to keep up with her friends right? When she texted me 4 days later she said that she was really busy. She didn't even acknowledge the fact that I wanted to meet her for coffee. When I engage in small talk she offers information about herself that I didn't ask for.
Is she really interested or should I just drop this and move on? Any insights would be helpful.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Deadly_Ripped

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You're sending multiple texts and calling her, and she's taking almost a week to get back to you, and then she's not interested in setting up any sort of arrangement to meet up.

That's called a hint. Take the hint. She's not interested.

Where is the mixed signal? That she gave you her number? You two work together, so it'd probably be pretty awkward if she refused to give it to you. Instead, she's letting you know, without being a BTCH about it, that she's not interested in seeing you outside of work.
 
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Berlex

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^What he said. Drop it dude, she's not interested.

"I asked for her number she gave it to me which naturally means that she's interested" Nah, like Deadly Ripped said, it'd be pretty awkward if she didn't give it.
 
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Bodhi

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Why are you posting this in the tips section? When i come here i want to read about new thoughts and ideas that helped people. Not whats causing you grief.
By the way stop trying to figure out what this or any other girl thinks of you thats why you felt the need to start this thread
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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As soon as she said that "She claims that she's bad with cell phones/txts" it was game over.. u should of known that.. no more chasing from there.
 
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