Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
bull****: they choose not to bend to women, some do. Not necessarily experienced. Passions are good for you, but not all "players" have them. I cant drive and im sure not all players drive.Originally posted by Disconnect
Talked to some, some I haven't. They're different in many ways, but have some similarities - confidence, mostly... They also don't bend down to women, they know they could have anyone, and that gives them an edge. They're also experienced. They have passions in life, like musical instruments, or sports, or both. They drive. There's more, but I'm sure we can all list these things.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Don't worry about what other "cooler" people have and do or dont do. There are loads of different methods of being cool or picking up women. Find one that works for you and that you enjoy. Whilst taking pointers from other people is good, emulating them is not, because then you add to their coolness and look even worse by comparison.Originally posted by Disconnect
JSH, I was talking about what I see around my school. The most successful people share those characteristics. I'm sure there's more.