Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
bull****: they choose not to bend to women, some do. Not necessarily experienced. Passions are good for you, but not all "players" have them. I cant drive and im sure not all players drive.Originally posted by Disconnect
Talked to some, some I haven't. They're different in many ways, but have some similarities - confidence, mostly... They also don't bend down to women, they know they could have anyone, and that gives them an edge. They're also experienced. They have passions in life, like musical instruments, or sports, or both. They drive. There's more, but I'm sure we can all list these things.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Don't worry about what other "cooler" people have and do or dont do. There are loads of different methods of being cool or picking up women. Find one that works for you and that you enjoy. Whilst taking pointers from other people is good, emulating them is not, because then you add to their coolness and look even worse by comparison.Originally posted by Disconnect
JSH, I was talking about what I see around my school. The most successful people share those characteristics. I'm sure there's more.