She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
bull****: they choose not to bend to women, some do. Not necessarily experienced. Passions are good for you, but not all "players" have them. I cant drive and im sure not all players drive.Originally posted by Disconnect
Talked to some, some I haven't. They're different in many ways, but have some similarities - confidence, mostly... They also don't bend down to women, they know they could have anyone, and that gives them an edge. They're also experienced. They have passions in life, like musical instruments, or sports, or both. They drive. There's more, but I'm sure we can all list these things.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Don't worry about what other "cooler" people have and do or dont do. There are loads of different methods of being cool or picking up women. Find one that works for you and that you enjoy. Whilst taking pointers from other people is good, emulating them is not, because then you add to their coolness and look even worse by comparison.Originally posted by Disconnect
JSH, I was talking about what I see around my school. The most successful people share those characteristics. I'm sure there's more.