"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What would you do?

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Hi
First of all please excuse my English as it's not my first language.
Now .. here's the story of this girl:

I met her 'accidentaly' on the internet (somenone gave her my Yahoo ID 'by mistake') about 3 weeks ago. I did a pretty good job raising her interest level - she told me many times she wanted to meet me in person.
So we've met... by mistake.. 2 days ago.. near her dorm.. at 3'o clock in the morning.

Now.. the funny thing is we were both a bit drunk and extremely tired. Sad thing is.. we bored each other out, as we both act VERY nice when we're drunk.. At least I didn't make an ass of myself..
But since then... she's always been offline so I couldn't talk to her about that night.

I could call her.. but I have the impression she's avoiding me. So what would you guys do if you were me? Whould you call? What would you say if you called? Would you setup another 'date'.. what would you do then? Damn I have never been in this kind of situation.

Thanks.

PS. almost forgot - she's a 7.5-8
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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GloriouslyInsane said:
Looks like you did a bad first impression :p
Yeap.. you're damn right about that!! Shame on me!
Still.. what would you do?

Don't get me wrong, I'm not obsessed about her as I hardly even know her, but I HATE bad first-impressions! Should I try to fix this situation.. or just say next and learn form my mistake? It would be easier to let her go, but I don't wanna give up before hearing her opinion about that night. And who knows.. maybe there's more to learn, more mistakes to make? "Persistence is the key to..don't remember", someone said.
 

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I would wait ~5-7 days after that night and call her,at the same time i would not log on to the chat/messenger whatever u used.I would say something like "Hi X,its smoke..u still owe me a drink from the bet the other night" , now u said you were both very drunk , she will say "What bet" to which you reply "I told you you won't remember,you were SOO drunk.I can't believe you,if i lost i wouldn't act like i didn't remember" , whatever she says next (except ok lets meet for that drink etc) you hang up and forget about her.Well its quite an bs and deceiving plan but if she wants to meet you again she would be looking for an excuse to do so and not ask you directly.
 

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That is f*cking amazing!!! "Bs plan" ?? You mean Brilliant-Simple plan??? Man.. THANK YOU!! BIG mistake not posting here sooner! THANKS AGAIN!!! :D
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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