“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
what would you do in this situation?
- Thread starter unistork
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Walden
Master Don Juan
What you did wrong: Couldn't say.
How to improve: If youre serious about doing cold pickups or you think it's a situation you'll want to get into again , have some prewritten cold PU material. A standard interets question (Moving into an appartment with 4 girls , do you think it's a good idea...).
So you don't have to try to think of something on the spot.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
squirrels
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What would you do if some girl came up to you and said, "Hi, my name's Christina, what's yours?"
Think about it for a second. Visualize yourself shopping for cellphones, unaware of anything around you, and suddenly someone out of the blue wants to exchange names.
Wouldn't you be a little disoriented, confused, and nervous??
A name is potentially intimate information. Why are you offering that to her? What has she done to deserve it, besides just being a girl?
You can be more creative than that.
SDFUandDie
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I CAME UP TO A WOMEN (hb9)IN A CELL PHONE STORE ONCE.. WE WERE LOOKING AT THE SAME CELL PHONE (WELL NOT REALLY, SHE WAS THERE FIRST LOOKING AT IT, I JUS CAME OVER AND PRETENDED LIKE I WAS LOOKING AT IT)
THIS IS WHAT THE CONVO WAS LIKE:
ME: this is a pretty cool phone
HER: yeah my cousin had one
ME: Well yanno I would get one if i had a beautiful women like yourself to call.
HER: *blushing her ass off*
after about 2 more minute of conversation I told her I was leaving and right before I walked out the door she came with me and gave me her number.
I called her the same day and hit it!!
sometimes its just to easy
See the only reason why I said that was because that's what I learned from the DJ bible on approaching somebody.Originally posted by squirrels
What would you do if some girl came up to you and said, "Hi, my name's Christina, what's yours?"
Think about it for a second. Visualize yourself shopping for cellphones, unaware of anything around you, and suddenly someone out of the blue wants to exchange names.
Wouldn't you be a little disoriented, confused, and nervous??
A name is potentially intimate information. Why are you offering that to her? What has she done to deserve it, besides just being a girl?
You can be more creative than that.
squirrels
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You approached and no one can take that from you. Lots of stuff in the DJ Bible is JUST to get people to the stage where they CAN approach. Doesn't matter if you go up to her and say, "I like sex with gorillas!", the fact of the matter is YOU TALKED TO A GIRL! You're not living in fear of them any more.
But now you've come to face the dilemma most people do when they educate themselves with the material on this site. They've learned they CAN approach, they've DONE it, but once the approach is complete (once they've gone up to her and gotten her attention), they have no idea what to DO!
Approaching is just opening the door. It's going up to the arcade game and dropping your quarters in. NOW you have to start developing some skill at PLAYING. THIS is where you make your mark on the girl, not just in the approach. You don't beat the game just from dropping your quarters in, even though it's a start. The REAL substance of your encounter comes AFTER the approach, and THIS is where you're lacking now.
Way to go on Chapter 1 of your transformation. On to Chapter 2.
NewMan
Master Don Juan
Having said that - I'm always looking for an "In".
My "In" is something that I can use in my approach.
Example.
I was at the mall and there was a good looking chick that was looking at celtic ring designs. Since I'm a celt - came to the us 10 yrs ago - I approached her - and opened with a comment on the celtic design. That was my in.
I didn't ask for her number - because I didn't get the "vibe" that she was interested in me at all. And that happens. So I just chat and then move on.
You've broken the approach - now you've got to develop your own unique style.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.