"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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You walk into a cell phone store and you see a hot woman what do you do? I need to know your stories.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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"are you getting a cell phone so I can call you?"

god i feel stupid :p
 

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For my situation I saw a woman at Cingular wireless, she was about a 7-8, I introduced myself and said "Hi, my name is Mike, what's your name?" and she looks at me like I was some psycho guy and she reluctantly answered "Christina...." and I just said "Nice to meet you" and she just had a smirk on her face. I just stopped. I knew she was very hot and I brought her down to my level maybe she thinks she was too good? What went wrong?
 

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What you did right: You approached and you followed your gut (and the 3 second rule).

What you did wrong: Couldn't say.

How to improve: If youre serious about doing cold pickups or you think it's a situation you'll want to get into again , have some prewritten cold PU material. A standard interets question (Moving into an appartment with 4 girls , do you think it's a good idea...).
So you don't have to try to think of something on the spot.
 

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this afternoon im gonna go to the mall food court and maybe see a woman I might find good looking and if she's all by herself... what would you say to her if she is sitting down all by herself ? i want a plan so i can do it flawless when I go there.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by unistork
For my situation I saw a woman at Cingular wireless, she was about a 7-8, I introduced myself and said "Hi, my name is Mike, what's your name?" and she looks at me like I was some psycho guy and she reluctantly answered "Christina...." and I just said "Nice to meet you" and she just had a smirk on her face. I just stopped. I knew she was very hot and I brought her down to my level maybe she thinks she was too good? What went wrong?
What would you do if some girl came up to you and said, "Hi, my name's Christina, what's yours?"

Think about it for a second. Visualize yourself shopping for cellphones, unaware of anything around you, and suddenly someone out of the blue wants to exchange names.

Wouldn't you be a little disoriented, confused, and nervous??

A name is potentially intimate information. Why are you offering that to her? What has she done to deserve it, besides just being a girl?

You can be more creative than that. ;)
 

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Originally posted by unistork
You walk into a cell phone store and you see a hot woman what do you do? I need to know your stories.
I CAME UP TO A WOMEN (hb9)IN A CELL PHONE STORE ONCE.. WE WERE LOOKING AT THE SAME CELL PHONE (WELL NOT REALLY, SHE WAS THERE FIRST LOOKING AT IT, I JUS CAME OVER AND PRETENDED LIKE I WAS LOOKING AT IT)

THIS IS WHAT THE CONVO WAS LIKE:

ME: this is a pretty cool phone
HER: yeah my cousin had one
ME: Well yanno I would get one if i had a beautiful women like yourself to call.
HER: *blushing her ass off*

after about 2 more minute of conversation I told her I was leaving and right before I walked out the door she came with me and gave me her number.

I called her the same day and hit it!!

sometimes its just to easy
 

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Originally posted by squirrels
What would you do if some girl came up to you and said, "Hi, my name's Christina, what's yours?"

Think about it for a second. Visualize yourself shopping for cellphones, unaware of anything around you, and suddenly someone out of the blue wants to exchange names.

Wouldn't you be a little disoriented, confused, and nervous??

A name is potentially intimate information. Why are you offering that to her? What has she done to deserve it, besides just being a girl?

You can be more creative than that. ;)
See the only reason why I said that was because that's what I learned from the DJ bible on approaching somebody.
 

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Originally posted by unistork
See the only reason why I said that was because that's what I learned from the DJ bible on approaching somebody.
You approached and no one can take that from you. Lots of stuff in the DJ Bible is JUST to get people to the stage where they CAN approach. Doesn't matter if you go up to her and say, "I like sex with gorillas!", the fact of the matter is YOU TALKED TO A GIRL! You're not living in fear of them any more.

But now you've come to face the dilemma most people do when they educate themselves with the material on this site. They've learned they CAN approach, they've DONE it, but once the approach is complete (once they've gone up to her and gotten her attention), they have no idea what to DO!

Approaching is just opening the door. It's going up to the arcade game and dropping your quarters in. NOW you have to start developing some skill at PLAYING. THIS is where you make your mark on the girl, not just in the approach. You don't beat the game just from dropping your quarters in, even though it's a start. The REAL substance of your encounter comes AFTER the approach, and THIS is where you're lacking now.

Way to go on Chapter 1 of your transformation. On to Chapter 2. ;)
 

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I don't usually do cold pickup's. I don't like them - and I can understand hot chicks just roll their eyes when they are hit on by some random guy in the street.

Having said that - I'm always looking for an "In".

My "In" is something that I can use in my approach.

Example.

I was at the mall and there was a good looking chick that was looking at celtic ring designs. Since I'm a celt - came to the us 10 yrs ago - I approached her - and opened with a comment on the celtic design. That was my in.


I didn't ask for her number - because I didn't get the "vibe" that she was interested in me at all. And that happens. So I just chat and then move on.

You've broken the approach - now you've got to develop your own unique style.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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