"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What would you do if she had a medical condition

leoncour

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What would you guys do if there was a girl you were interested in, and you asked her if she wanted to sit down and talk for a while. During the conversation you realize that you have a few of the same interests, and that you like her personality. You are 26 and she is 20. She looks rather pale and thin, though. But then she tells you something shocking...that she has a medical condition that prevents her from working or going to school, and that she won't be cured from it for at least 6 months. The poor girl is basically housebound. You don't ask what her medical condition is because you don't want to ask something that might be too personal. You get her number and leave.

What would you guys do? The reason I am asking is because this precise situation happened to me. Please help.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Treat her no differently as a human being than you would anyone else. It'll make her feel more normal. Simply making the phone call could be monumental in her mind.
 

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Jackman said:
Treat her no differently as a human being than you would anyone else. It'll make her feel more normal. Simply making the phone call could be monumental in her mind.
Bingo.

She is no different, and most people in her situation just want to be treated like a regular human being.

Just ask yourself, do you want to call her? It's a yes or no, and what we would do should not impact your moves. If you want to call her, call her.
 

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leoncour said:
What would you guys do if there was a girl you were interested in, and you asked her if she wanted to sit down and talk for a while. During the conversation you realize that you have a few of the same interests, and that you like her personality. You are 26 and she is 20. She looks rather pale and thin, though. But then she tells you something shocking...that she has a medical condition that prevents her from working or going to school, and that she won't be cured from it for at least 6 months. The poor girl is basically housebound. You don't ask what her medical condition is because you don't want to ask something that might be too personal. You get her number and leave.

What would you guys do? The reason I am asking is because this precise situation happened to me. Please help.
What medical condition would that be?


And why are you intersted in someone so siclky? Does she have a nice body?
 

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Call_Me_Daddy said:
...And why are you intersted in someone so siclky? Does she have a nice body?
Well, I'm glad the maturity level of this site hasn't evolved too highly since I've been gone. :rolleyes:

I personally would be too curious not to call her. It is up to you whether you want to call her or not. Worst case scenario, you have some decent conversation and you make a new friend.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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If you like her ... you can make a difference to her ... and yourself ...
 

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Some of you guys are acting like he's offering a charity service to the girl...

If you want to fvck her, give her a call. Me personally, I'd be turned off. How do you know it's not contagious? I would've asked her what her condition is and apoligized if she got embarassed. I don't think she would've told you as much as she did if she wasn't willing to be more specific.
 

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As the other guys said, just treat her as if she didn't have any illness. Call her and ask her out. Even if you decide not to take things to the next level, you've made a new friend, and so has she.
 

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CyranoDeBergerac said:
Well, I'm glad the maturity level of this site hasn't evolved too highly since I've been gone. :rolleyes:
I second that.
 

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CyranoDeBergerac said:
Well, I'm glad the maturity level of this site hasn't evolved too highly since I've been gone. :rolleyes:

So I take it you're okay with having sex with diseased chicks then? Ghonorea, herpes, aids, bacterial infections... yum. Seems like a turn on for me too once I think of it. Oooooh Yeahhh!!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Call_Me_Daddy said:
So I take it you're okay with having sex with diseased chicks then? Ghonorea, herpes, aids, bacterial infections... yum. Seems like a turn on for me too once I think of it. Oooooh Yeahhh!!
I dont believe anyone mention what the disease is (or if it is even contagious or not). Maybe she has diabetes? etc. It could be something minor.
At least she's being straight forward and honest about it.

Sex is a part of life. But sex isnt Life.
 
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Freddy1 said:
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Maybe she has diabetes? etc. It could be something minor.
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I don't think a lot of people think that diabetes is minor...

Back to the topic:
I think it's imperative to know what the disease is... If it's something that wouldn't infect or affect me then no problem.
 

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leoncour said:
she has a medical condition that prevents her from working or going to school, and that she won't be cured from it for at least 6 months. The poor girl is basically housebound.
Is "laziness" a "medical condition" now? :rolleyes:

And if she is "housebound," then how the hell did you meet her outside of her house?
 

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uhhhhhhh

She'll go outside looking all sickly and tell you it'll be gone in 6 months but it's too personal to say what it is?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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