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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

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What would you do if she had a medical condition

leoncour

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What would you guys do if there was a girl you were interested in, and you asked her if she wanted to sit down and talk for a while. During the conversation you realize that you have a few of the same interests, and that you like her personality. You are 26 and she is 20. She looks rather pale and thin, though. But then she tells you something shocking...that she has a medical condition that prevents her from working or going to school, and that she won't be cured from it for at least 6 months. The poor girl is basically housebound. You don't ask what her medical condition is because you don't want to ask something that might be too personal. You get her number and leave.

What would you guys do? The reason I am asking is because this precise situation happened to me. Please help.
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Treat her no differently as a human being than you would anyone else. It'll make her feel more normal. Simply making the phone call could be monumental in her mind.
 

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Jackman said:
Treat her no differently as a human being than you would anyone else. It'll make her feel more normal. Simply making the phone call could be monumental in her mind.
Bingo.

She is no different, and most people in her situation just want to be treated like a regular human being.

Just ask yourself, do you want to call her? It's a yes or no, and what we would do should not impact your moves. If you want to call her, call her.
 

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leoncour said:
What would you guys do if there was a girl you were interested in, and you asked her if she wanted to sit down and talk for a while. During the conversation you realize that you have a few of the same interests, and that you like her personality. You are 26 and she is 20. She looks rather pale and thin, though. But then she tells you something shocking...that she has a medical condition that prevents her from working or going to school, and that she won't be cured from it for at least 6 months. The poor girl is basically housebound. You don't ask what her medical condition is because you don't want to ask something that might be too personal. You get her number and leave.

What would you guys do? The reason I am asking is because this precise situation happened to me. Please help.
What medical condition would that be?


And why are you intersted in someone so siclky? Does she have a nice body?
 

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Call_Me_Daddy said:
...And why are you intersted in someone so siclky? Does she have a nice body?
Well, I'm glad the maturity level of this site hasn't evolved too highly since I've been gone. :rolleyes:

I personally would be too curious not to call her. It is up to you whether you want to call her or not. Worst case scenario, you have some decent conversation and you make a new friend.
 

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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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If you like her ... you can make a difference to her ... and yourself ...
 

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Some of you guys are acting like he's offering a charity service to the girl...

If you want to fvck her, give her a call. Me personally, I'd be turned off. How do you know it's not contagious? I would've asked her what her condition is and apoligized if she got embarassed. I don't think she would've told you as much as she did if she wasn't willing to be more specific.
 

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As the other guys said, just treat her as if she didn't have any illness. Call her and ask her out. Even if you decide not to take things to the next level, you've made a new friend, and so has she.
 

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CyranoDeBergerac said:
Well, I'm glad the maturity level of this site hasn't evolved too highly since I've been gone. :rolleyes:
I second that.
 

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CyranoDeBergerac said:
Well, I'm glad the maturity level of this site hasn't evolved too highly since I've been gone. :rolleyes:

So I take it you're okay with having sex with diseased chicks then? Ghonorea, herpes, aids, bacterial infections... yum. Seems like a turn on for me too once I think of it. Oooooh Yeahhh!!
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Call_Me_Daddy said:
So I take it you're okay with having sex with diseased chicks then? Ghonorea, herpes, aids, bacterial infections... yum. Seems like a turn on for me too once I think of it. Oooooh Yeahhh!!
I dont believe anyone mention what the disease is (or if it is even contagious or not). Maybe she has diabetes? etc. It could be something minor.
At least she's being straight forward and honest about it.

Sex is a part of life. But sex isnt Life.
 
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Freddy1 said:
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Maybe she has diabetes? etc. It could be something minor.
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I don't think a lot of people think that diabetes is minor...

Back to the topic:
I think it's imperative to know what the disease is... If it's something that wouldn't infect or affect me then no problem.
 

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leoncour said:
she has a medical condition that prevents her from working or going to school, and that she won't be cured from it for at least 6 months. The poor girl is basically housebound.
Is "laziness" a "medical condition" now? :rolleyes:

And if she is "housebound," then how the hell did you meet her outside of her house?
 

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uhhhhhhh

She'll go outside looking all sickly and tell you it'll be gone in 6 months but it's too personal to say what it is?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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