"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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What would Rollo do?

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I'm throwing this out as a tip, because it actually works for me. I've noticed that when I make a decision that pertains to DJness, sometimes its easy for me to trick myself into believing something that really isn't the case. Do I call or not? Should I say something, or wait. Do I take this move or that move. Then, many times, you'll end up talking yourself into doing something that you shouldn't have done.

So, for clarity, ask yourself, "What would Rollo do?" (insert whoever's name here that you respect most). When you pretend like that and think from an expert's perspective, I've just noticed it brings out more honesty with yourself, and it might cause you to hesitate or take a different course before you do something stupid.

"What would Jesus do" apparently works for the Christains. Why not apply the same principle to DJing?

It is a crutch of sorts, but we all could use a little help when it comes to developing these new skills.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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It's a good philosophy as a guide but ask yourself if you're making your own decisions based on your own experiences and firsthand knowledge or are you making a decision based on what you believe someone else would make with the hope that it's the right one?
 

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Sounds like a good tip. I did use that before. Going to try that again
 

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KarmaSutra said:
It's a good philosophy as a guide but ask yourself if you're making your own decisions based on your own experiences and firsthand knowledge or are you making a decision based on what you believe someone else would make with the hope that it's the right one?
What I'm mainly addressing for me is not that my knowledge and experience is lacking, just that (for me, anyway) sometimes the person you see the least clear is yourself. Sometimes if i really want something, or for something to happen, the fact that I'm wanting a particular outcome can cloud my otherwise clear judgement.

So when you take a few steps back, and pretend to think from another perspective, it tends to eliminate that bias that you have because you're the one that will be affected by the decision.

As an analogy, think of a prized, highly trained fighter with the coach in the corner of the ring. The fighter already has all of the skills and the knowledge, but the coach in the corner helps maintain focus and reminds the fighter of things he already knows.
 

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azanon said:
What I'm mainly addressing for me is not that my knowledge and experience is lacking, just that (for me, anyway) sometimes the person you see the least clear is yourself. Sometimes if i really want something, or for something to happen, the fact that I'm wanting a particular outcome can cloud my otherwise clear judgement.

So when you take a few steps back, and pretend to think from another perspective, it tends to eliminate that bias that you have because you're the one that will be affected by the decision.

As an analogy, think of a prized, highly trained fighter with the coach in the corner of the ring. The fighter already has all of the skills and the knowledge, but the coach in the corner helps maintain focus and reminds the fighter of things he already knows.
That's the explanation I was hoping for! :rockon:

You've done good here.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I think the issue here is that when you're conversing or wooing an attractive lady, your emotions will always cloud and disrupt your usual logic and DJ thoughts. When you get advice, you're getting clear feedback without any emotional consideration which is quite objective and helpful, instead of rationalizing certain situations into toilet matter.

This is why texting and IMing is so popular. They're so impersonal and you can take your time in your responses. Thus a true DJ wouldn't need such tools and use actual phones as the weapon of choice.
 

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Taking it further, look to the time when you were having the most success with that particular woman, and ask yourself, what would I have done? The best part of any relationship is the beginning, and we will often do the right things before becoming emotionally attached and turning AFC. So think back to when things were brand new and the girl was crazy jealous over you and throwing sex at you constantly, and act the way you did back then.
 

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What would Warboss Alex do?
Squat!
 

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thats actually a great motivational tip, ill give it a try. thanks man.
 

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Rata Blanca said:
What would Warboss Alex do?
Squat!
Yes!! We have a winner. :cheer:

Squat, deadlift, and bench...and the world will be yours.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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