"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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What would Rollo do?

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I'm throwing this out as a tip, because it actually works for me. I've noticed that when I make a decision that pertains to DJness, sometimes its easy for me to trick myself into believing something that really isn't the case. Do I call or not? Should I say something, or wait. Do I take this move or that move. Then, many times, you'll end up talking yourself into doing something that you shouldn't have done.

So, for clarity, ask yourself, "What would Rollo do?" (insert whoever's name here that you respect most). When you pretend like that and think from an expert's perspective, I've just noticed it brings out more honesty with yourself, and it might cause you to hesitate or take a different course before you do something stupid.

"What would Jesus do" apparently works for the Christains. Why not apply the same principle to DJing?

It is a crutch of sorts, but we all could use a little help when it comes to developing these new skills.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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It's a good philosophy as a guide but ask yourself if you're making your own decisions based on your own experiences and firsthand knowledge or are you making a decision based on what you believe someone else would make with the hope that it's the right one?
 

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Sounds like a good tip. I did use that before. Going to try that again
 

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KarmaSutra said:
It's a good philosophy as a guide but ask yourself if you're making your own decisions based on your own experiences and firsthand knowledge or are you making a decision based on what you believe someone else would make with the hope that it's the right one?
What I'm mainly addressing for me is not that my knowledge and experience is lacking, just that (for me, anyway) sometimes the person you see the least clear is yourself. Sometimes if i really want something, or for something to happen, the fact that I'm wanting a particular outcome can cloud my otherwise clear judgement.

So when you take a few steps back, and pretend to think from another perspective, it tends to eliminate that bias that you have because you're the one that will be affected by the decision.

As an analogy, think of a prized, highly trained fighter with the coach in the corner of the ring. The fighter already has all of the skills and the knowledge, but the coach in the corner helps maintain focus and reminds the fighter of things he already knows.
 

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azanon said:
What I'm mainly addressing for me is not that my knowledge and experience is lacking, just that (for me, anyway) sometimes the person you see the least clear is yourself. Sometimes if i really want something, or for something to happen, the fact that I'm wanting a particular outcome can cloud my otherwise clear judgement.

So when you take a few steps back, and pretend to think from another perspective, it tends to eliminate that bias that you have because you're the one that will be affected by the decision.

As an analogy, think of a prized, highly trained fighter with the coach in the corner of the ring. The fighter already has all of the skills and the knowledge, but the coach in the corner helps maintain focus and reminds the fighter of things he already knows.
That's the explanation I was hoping for! :rockon:

You've done good here.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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I think the issue here is that when you're conversing or wooing an attractive lady, your emotions will always cloud and disrupt your usual logic and DJ thoughts. When you get advice, you're getting clear feedback without any emotional consideration which is quite objective and helpful, instead of rationalizing certain situations into toilet matter.

This is why texting and IMing is so popular. They're so impersonal and you can take your time in your responses. Thus a true DJ wouldn't need such tools and use actual phones as the weapon of choice.
 

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Taking it further, look to the time when you were having the most success with that particular woman, and ask yourself, what would I have done? The best part of any relationship is the beginning, and we will often do the right things before becoming emotionally attached and turning AFC. So think back to when things were brand new and the girl was crazy jealous over you and throwing sex at you constantly, and act the way you did back then.
 

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What would Warboss Alex do?
Squat!
 

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thats actually a great motivational tip, ill give it a try. thanks man.
 

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Rata Blanca said:
What would Warboss Alex do?
Squat!
Yes!! We have a winner. :cheer:

Squat, deadlift, and bench...and the world will be yours.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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