What to do when the girl has interest...... Says she likes u.... U've kissed her a few times.... She turned down going to see a movie this past Tues. and Fri and didnt' put any initiative into suggesting other days to hangout......And she knows i leave for Europe for 3 weeks on the 27th.... Advice......Don Juans.....
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
What would a Don Juan Do.......?
- Thread starter godjwood
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
dipset_mafia
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okay, you're going to need to read more of the literature!!!
this girl is growing impatient with you. it sounds like you've missed a lot of opportunities to round the bases on this one...
ANNND you're leaving for like a month.. would YOU start dating a chick if you knew she was going to be in europe for 3 weeks in a matter of days? well that part might not matter as much, seeing as you may have already blown it...
you've gotta remember that you're the man. you have to tell this chick that you're GOING to be meeting with her on (insert day) at (insert time)... when you want something to happen with a woman, you need to LOAD your "questions" ... if you've ever taken anything to do with surveys in university, it lays it out, you want to always load your speach with slanted q's that don't present options, or only present favourable options.. the key is not to ask questions.
i.e.
Do you WANT to come over on monday? MAYBE we can cook dinner?
vs...
come over to my house on monday, we'll make dinner. (notice the lack of question marks, and wussiness)
this girl is growing impatient with you. it sounds like you've missed a lot of opportunities to round the bases on this one...
ANNND you're leaving for like a month.. would YOU start dating a chick if you knew she was going to be in europe for 3 weeks in a matter of days? well that part might not matter as much, seeing as you may have already blown it...
where is the power here? you shouldn't be ASKING. you should be TELLING.Originally posted by godjwood
Should i bother calling her today...say hey wanna hangout Sat. then if she's like i'm busy or w/e be like ok well i'm leaving Tues. if u wanna hangout u know how to reach me. ??? That good
you've gotta remember that you're the man. you have to tell this chick that you're GOING to be meeting with her on (insert day) at (insert time)... when you want something to happen with a woman, you need to LOAD your "questions" ... if you've ever taken anything to do with surveys in university, it lays it out, you want to always load your speach with slanted q's that don't present options, or only present favourable options.. the key is not to ask questions.
i.e.
Do you WANT to come over on monday? MAYBE we can cook dinner?
vs...
come over to my house on monday, we'll make dinner. (notice the lack of question marks, and wussiness)
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That's the ticket. You leave to Europe.
Chicks use BS chick logic on these things... you go somewhere for 3 weeks and she thinks you are not good to go out with anymore.
The time is critical on the start. When you are in a phase you've just met her and just kissed couple of times and if she is not REALLY interested in you she'll really easily let you go if you are unavailable for a "long" period of time.
I can say you've put some effort on her and she doesn't seem really interested. I think you should ask her again on 25th to hang with you on 27th just before you go because you want a good memory of home when you are on your trip or some
bull* like that.
Don't act desperate. She's been showing red flags enough. If she's not with you soon, she's out of your world for real. Life is too short to waste it on one woman. There are plenty to go around.
Chicks use BS chick logic on these things... you go somewhere for 3 weeks and she thinks you are not good to go out with anymore.
The time is critical on the start. When you are in a phase you've just met her and just kissed couple of times and if she is not REALLY interested in you she'll really easily let you go if you are unavailable for a "long" period of time.
I can say you've put some effort on her and she doesn't seem really interested. I think you should ask her again on 25th to hang with you on 27th just before you go because you want a good memory of home when you are on your trip or some
bull* like that.
Don't act desperate. She's been showing red flags enough. If she's not with you soon, she's out of your world for real. Life is too short to waste it on one woman. There are plenty to go around.
Captain Popular
Don Juan
Let's see if you should call
"hello (name) ill use ***** b/c deep down all gurls are.
so let try this again,
"hello *****, im leaving tuesday and just wanted to make sure we got to say goodbye, maybe over some luch or something?"
Ohh im busy all this week
"well ok, thats definatly cool, ill guess ill talk to you later if you' lucky."
"Bye *****"
and just leave it be this wil let you know if she really has intrest in you. if she calls to hang out before you leave then cool. otherwise you're wasting your time and a total (not a chance b/c she doesnt like you like that anymore)
"hello (name) ill use ***** b/c deep down all gurls are.
so let try this again,
"hello *****, im leaving tuesday and just wanted to make sure we got to say goodbye, maybe over some luch or something?"
Ohh im busy all this week
"well ok, thats definatly cool, ill guess ill talk to you later if you' lucky."
"Bye *****"
and just leave it be this wil let you know if she really has intrest in you. if she calls to hang out before you leave then cool. otherwise you're wasting your time and a total (not a chance b/c she doesnt like you like that anymore)
Magnatolia
Don Juan
Here's a better idea. Tell her when you want to catch up. In your last post you said you were going to see if she wants to hangout? Reread the replies. This gives her the option of saying no. If you're not confident in telling her a time and date, then say "I want to catch up before I leave. what's a good time for you?" If she says I'm busy then move to the next paragraph.
If she declines then say "Well, I guess you're not that interested. Just wanted to make sure because I've heard the chicks in Europe are really hot. So I'll see you around."
I'm not an expert but I believe that if she's at all interested, she won't like the thought of you with other women.
Opinions on this are appreciated.
If she declines then say "Well, I guess you're not that interested. Just wanted to make sure because I've heard the chicks in Europe are really hot. So I'll see you around."
I'm not an expert but I believe that if she's at all interested, she won't like the thought of you with other women.
Opinions on this are appreciated.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.