What to do when the girl has interest...... Says she likes u.... U've kissed her a few times.... She turned down going to see a movie this past Tues. and Fri and didnt' put any initiative into suggesting other days to hangout......And she knows i leave for Europe for 3 weeks on the 27th.... Advice......Don Juans.....
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
What would a Don Juan Do.......?
- Thread starter godjwood
- Start date
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
dipset_mafia
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okay, you're going to need to read more of the literature!!!
this girl is growing impatient with you. it sounds like you've missed a lot of opportunities to round the bases on this one...
ANNND you're leaving for like a month.. would YOU start dating a chick if you knew she was going to be in europe for 3 weeks in a matter of days? well that part might not matter as much, seeing as you may have already blown it...
you've gotta remember that you're the man. you have to tell this chick that you're GOING to be meeting with her on (insert day) at (insert time)... when you want something to happen with a woman, you need to LOAD your "questions" ... if you've ever taken anything to do with surveys in university, it lays it out, you want to always load your speach with slanted q's that don't present options, or only present favourable options.. the key is not to ask questions.
i.e.
Do you WANT to come over on monday? MAYBE we can cook dinner?
vs...
come over to my house on monday, we'll make dinner. (notice the lack of question marks, and wussiness)
this girl is growing impatient with you. it sounds like you've missed a lot of opportunities to round the bases on this one...
ANNND you're leaving for like a month.. would YOU start dating a chick if you knew she was going to be in europe for 3 weeks in a matter of days? well that part might not matter as much, seeing as you may have already blown it...
where is the power here? you shouldn't be ASKING. you should be TELLING.Originally posted by godjwood
Should i bother calling her today...say hey wanna hangout Sat. then if she's like i'm busy or w/e be like ok well i'm leaving Tues. if u wanna hangout u know how to reach me. ??? That good
you've gotta remember that you're the man. you have to tell this chick that you're GOING to be meeting with her on (insert day) at (insert time)... when you want something to happen with a woman, you need to LOAD your "questions" ... if you've ever taken anything to do with surveys in university, it lays it out, you want to always load your speach with slanted q's that don't present options, or only present favourable options.. the key is not to ask questions.
i.e.
Do you WANT to come over on monday? MAYBE we can cook dinner?
vs...
come over to my house on monday, we'll make dinner. (notice the lack of question marks, and wussiness)
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That's the ticket. You leave to Europe.
Chicks use BS chick logic on these things... you go somewhere for 3 weeks and she thinks you are not good to go out with anymore.
The time is critical on the start. When you are in a phase you've just met her and just kissed couple of times and if she is not REALLY interested in you she'll really easily let you go if you are unavailable for a "long" period of time.
I can say you've put some effort on her and she doesn't seem really interested. I think you should ask her again on 25th to hang with you on 27th just before you go because you want a good memory of home when you are on your trip or some
bull* like that.
Don't act desperate. She's been showing red flags enough. If she's not with you soon, she's out of your world for real. Life is too short to waste it on one woman. There are plenty to go around.
Chicks use BS chick logic on these things... you go somewhere for 3 weeks and she thinks you are not good to go out with anymore.
The time is critical on the start. When you are in a phase you've just met her and just kissed couple of times and if she is not REALLY interested in you she'll really easily let you go if you are unavailable for a "long" period of time.
I can say you've put some effort on her and she doesn't seem really interested. I think you should ask her again on 25th to hang with you on 27th just before you go because you want a good memory of home when you are on your trip or some
bull* like that.
Don't act desperate. She's been showing red flags enough. If she's not with you soon, she's out of your world for real. Life is too short to waste it on one woman. There are plenty to go around.
Captain Popular
Don Juan
Let's see if you should call
"hello (name) ill use ***** b/c deep down all gurls are.
so let try this again,
"hello *****, im leaving tuesday and just wanted to make sure we got to say goodbye, maybe over some luch or something?"
Ohh im busy all this week
"well ok, thats definatly cool, ill guess ill talk to you later if you' lucky."
"Bye *****"
and just leave it be this wil let you know if she really has intrest in you. if she calls to hang out before you leave then cool. otherwise you're wasting your time and a total (not a chance b/c she doesnt like you like that anymore)
"hello (name) ill use ***** b/c deep down all gurls are.
so let try this again,
"hello *****, im leaving tuesday and just wanted to make sure we got to say goodbye, maybe over some luch or something?"
Ohh im busy all this week
"well ok, thats definatly cool, ill guess ill talk to you later if you' lucky."
"Bye *****"
and just leave it be this wil let you know if she really has intrest in you. if she calls to hang out before you leave then cool. otherwise you're wasting your time and a total (not a chance b/c she doesnt like you like that anymore)
Magnatolia
Don Juan
Here's a better idea. Tell her when you want to catch up. In your last post you said you were going to see if she wants to hangout? Reread the replies. This gives her the option of saying no. If you're not confident in telling her a time and date, then say "I want to catch up before I leave. what's a good time for you?" If she says I'm busy then move to the next paragraph.
If she declines then say "Well, I guess you're not that interested. Just wanted to make sure because I've heard the chicks in Europe are really hot. So I'll see you around."
I'm not an expert but I believe that if she's at all interested, she won't like the thought of you with other women.
Opinions on this are appreciated.
If she declines then say "Well, I guess you're not that interested. Just wanted to make sure because I've heard the chicks in Europe are really hot. So I'll see you around."
I'm not an expert but I believe that if she's at all interested, she won't like the thought of you with other women.
Opinions on this are appreciated.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.