What to do when the girl has interest...... Says she likes u.... U've kissed her a few times.... She turned down going to see a movie this past Tues. and Fri and didnt' put any initiative into suggesting other days to hangout......And she knows i leave for Europe for 3 weeks on the 27th.... Advice......Don Juans.....
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
What would a Don Juan Do.......?
- Thread starter godjwood
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
dipset_mafia
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okay, you're going to need to read more of the literature!!!
this girl is growing impatient with you. it sounds like you've missed a lot of opportunities to round the bases on this one...
ANNND you're leaving for like a month.. would YOU start dating a chick if you knew she was going to be in europe for 3 weeks in a matter of days? well that part might not matter as much, seeing as you may have already blown it...
you've gotta remember that you're the man. you have to tell this chick that you're GOING to be meeting with her on (insert day) at (insert time)... when you want something to happen with a woman, you need to LOAD your "questions" ... if you've ever taken anything to do with surveys in university, it lays it out, you want to always load your speach with slanted q's that don't present options, or only present favourable options.. the key is not to ask questions.
i.e.
Do you WANT to come over on monday? MAYBE we can cook dinner?
vs...
come over to my house on monday, we'll make dinner. (notice the lack of question marks, and wussiness)
this girl is growing impatient with you. it sounds like you've missed a lot of opportunities to round the bases on this one...
ANNND you're leaving for like a month.. would YOU start dating a chick if you knew she was going to be in europe for 3 weeks in a matter of days? well that part might not matter as much, seeing as you may have already blown it...
where is the power here? you shouldn't be ASKING. you should be TELLING.Originally posted by godjwood
Should i bother calling her today...say hey wanna hangout Sat. then if she's like i'm busy or w/e be like ok well i'm leaving Tues. if u wanna hangout u know how to reach me. ??? That good
you've gotta remember that you're the man. you have to tell this chick that you're GOING to be meeting with her on (insert day) at (insert time)... when you want something to happen with a woman, you need to LOAD your "questions" ... if you've ever taken anything to do with surveys in university, it lays it out, you want to always load your speach with slanted q's that don't present options, or only present favourable options.. the key is not to ask questions.
i.e.
Do you WANT to come over on monday? MAYBE we can cook dinner?
vs...
come over to my house on monday, we'll make dinner. (notice the lack of question marks, and wussiness)
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
That's the ticket. You leave to Europe.
Chicks use BS chick logic on these things... you go somewhere for 3 weeks and she thinks you are not good to go out with anymore.
The time is critical on the start. When you are in a phase you've just met her and just kissed couple of times and if she is not REALLY interested in you she'll really easily let you go if you are unavailable for a "long" period of time.
I can say you've put some effort on her and she doesn't seem really interested. I think you should ask her again on 25th to hang with you on 27th just before you go because you want a good memory of home when you are on your trip or some
bull* like that.
Don't act desperate. She's been showing red flags enough. If she's not with you soon, she's out of your world for real. Life is too short to waste it on one woman. There are plenty to go around.
Chicks use BS chick logic on these things... you go somewhere for 3 weeks and she thinks you are not good to go out with anymore.
The time is critical on the start. When you are in a phase you've just met her and just kissed couple of times and if she is not REALLY interested in you she'll really easily let you go if you are unavailable for a "long" period of time.
I can say you've put some effort on her and she doesn't seem really interested. I think you should ask her again on 25th to hang with you on 27th just before you go because you want a good memory of home when you are on your trip or some
bull* like that.
Don't act desperate. She's been showing red flags enough. If she's not with you soon, she's out of your world for real. Life is too short to waste it on one woman. There are plenty to go around.
Captain Popular
Don Juan
Let's see if you should call
"hello (name) ill use ***** b/c deep down all gurls are.
so let try this again,
"hello *****, im leaving tuesday and just wanted to make sure we got to say goodbye, maybe over some luch or something?"
Ohh im busy all this week
"well ok, thats definatly cool, ill guess ill talk to you later if you' lucky."
"Bye *****"
and just leave it be this wil let you know if she really has intrest in you. if she calls to hang out before you leave then cool. otherwise you're wasting your time and a total (not a chance b/c she doesnt like you like that anymore)
"hello (name) ill use ***** b/c deep down all gurls are.
so let try this again,
"hello *****, im leaving tuesday and just wanted to make sure we got to say goodbye, maybe over some luch or something?"
Ohh im busy all this week
"well ok, thats definatly cool, ill guess ill talk to you later if you' lucky."
"Bye *****"
and just leave it be this wil let you know if she really has intrest in you. if she calls to hang out before you leave then cool. otherwise you're wasting your time and a total (not a chance b/c she doesnt like you like that anymore)
Magnatolia
Don Juan
Here's a better idea. Tell her when you want to catch up. In your last post you said you were going to see if she wants to hangout? Reread the replies. This gives her the option of saying no. If you're not confident in telling her a time and date, then say "I want to catch up before I leave. what's a good time for you?" If she says I'm busy then move to the next paragraph.
If she declines then say "Well, I guess you're not that interested. Just wanted to make sure because I've heard the chicks in Europe are really hot. So I'll see you around."
I'm not an expert but I believe that if she's at all interested, she won't like the thought of you with other women.
Opinions on this are appreciated.
If she declines then say "Well, I guess you're not that interested. Just wanted to make sure because I've heard the chicks in Europe are really hot. So I'll see you around."
I'm not an expert but I believe that if she's at all interested, she won't like the thought of you with other women.
Opinions on this are appreciated.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.