"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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As someone who's naturally shy around attractive girls, I have the tendency to jump the gun in many situations. That is, I'll finally muster up the balls to make a move, but when I do, it comes across as OUT OF THE BLUE and not very smooth. However I've noticed something interesting, here's an example...
I met this beautiful all-natural Hawaiin chick named Oriana last summer. One night we agreed to meet up at the beach. I brought a lil' somethin to smoke on, and she brought an unopened fifth of Gin.
So there we were on the sand, taking shots, talking, and laying on the blankets I had the foresight to bring. Well the tide was rising but we decided to risk getting trapped and soaked, get drunk, and spend the night under the stars.
All this time I'm waiting for the "right time" to break the physical barrier. Finally I said something like, "C'mere, cuddle with me." She answered, "Nah, I'm alright." I felt rejected and lay on my back, but acted as though nothing had happened and continued laughing and conversing with her. The next thing I know, she was laying on top of me!
The point is, there've been several occasions where I've met with initial resistance, but because I played it off and stayed upbeat, the girl seemed to wonder why I wasn't being pushy and started taking the initiative herself. Then I realized that even girls who are interested try to make you work for it a bit, and you shouldn't assume that rejection is final. Be patient and persistent, see what happens!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Yep, don't show that you were effected by it. It truly shows who has the power; her by you being effected by it, or you by not being effected by it.
 
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"Come here cuddle with me"? Not very smooth.. but whatever works for you.. I would had just done it without permission. If I get rejected, then I lay low for awhile and try again. You should always try and remain unphased by **** like that though, good tip in that sense.
 
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Yeah girls will often put up a little resistance when you want to go to the next level. If they reject you, try again in a little bit. If they still reject you, try again tomorrow! They'll let ya. :up:

I've experienced this many times personally.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yeah, not the smoothest line ever, but you played it off as being playful, which is what's important. Don't let little things like this get to you.
 
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Hi
You are not clear with your thoughts, will you give more information. So I can help you out in this matter.


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I never claimed to be smooth. I'll be the first to admit my game sucks. That's why I'm here, so feel free to "learn" me.
Because I'm good-looking I meet alot of attractive girls whose initial interest level is high. I have no trouble getting phone numbers and first dates. But after that I'm in trouble. When it comes to getting physical I become tense and just can't find the moves. Specific advice in this area would be most welcome. Telling me to "relax" doesn't count.
My problem growing up was I relied on my appearance and didn't develop my personality and confidence enough. Back in high school it was so easy...all I had to do was smile and the girls took it from there. College babes however are a different story. And apparently I don't know what I'm doing.
I'm ready to listen though.
 
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Nice thread! I really like your provided information. It's really helpful for me.
Thanks a lot!
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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This same principle has worked for me on a broader scale many, many times. As recently as today I got a call from a Filipino chick I used to pursue. After the first few times we hung out she was always "too busy", and eventually ignored all my calls and texts. So I said @#$% it and left her alone for a few weeks, now here she is asking me to go swimming tomorrow. She's like 4 11 with chocolate skin and amazing lips and tits, so bring on the bikini! My point is, if you're getting nowhere, let it go and she might come back to you. I heard somewhere that when a girl doesn't hear from you for 2 weeks, she starts to wonder what's up and often initiates contact.
 
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