Gamisch
Master Don Juan
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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
-A "goner" 99 /100 means the sex wasn't great anymore.The sex.
It’s not that deep. I’ve had sex with all of my exes post break up. I never wanted any of them back lmao-A "goner" 99 /100 means the sex wasn't great anymore.
-sex can bebobtained other ways, and eventually can be bought.
- sex ia the worst reason to stay with a woman who doesn't want to be with you.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Used to think so, until a few years later, even the memory of the sex fades eventually.The sex.
Great answer.A sounding board to run ideas by, someone to complain about my day to and celebrate the small wins with. Companionship, sex (it’s not the same as paid for sex and I am experienced with both), things to do on the weekend without the need to impress.
Being able to focus on things other than women, as a partner being there just slots into your life and fills that void with minimal effort (once relationship is matured/established).
A cook/cleaner, organiser, life admin assistant, something pretty to look at.
That’s all I can think of off the top.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I get by just fine without a woman, I love my own space, but when I think about it, the above reasons are what came to my mind.Great answer.
And within this answer also hides the problem we men have. This is all honeymoon phase stuff. I know that I've been through this AT LEAST 40 times.
We're learning the HARD way that all these aspects are voids that must be filled otherwise.
Its only doable when you switch women every x amount of years or even months. Ask any married man if this is sustainable for long..
The irony is that once you manage to fill that void WITHOUT a woman, they'll line up to be that woman for you...
Captivating, but what do you see?
I've only got one ex I miss having sex with. Its because we had a sexual connection that was like no other. She knew it, I knew it. I don't think she will ever be topped. Our bodies fit together really well. She was a crazy chic of course. We both liked to push sexual boundaries, nothing was taboo, we were both really into pleasing each other. It was p0rnstar sex except between two people that cared about each other which made it ultra passionate. Her cooking skills were top notch as well.
If I may ask, what other qualities were you looking for that the girl in the first quoted didn't possess?she didn't have everything I was looking for. I'm only committing to the top women.
Thanks but my question was for @The Duke .A sense of humour, sense of style,submissiveness, frugal, tight body, her own teeth, good boobs, red hair, good social network, earning good money, et cetera.
lol, that was funny, I'll give you that.her own teeth,
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She was very difficult to sit down and have a two way conversation with, even about fun things. She did most of the talking.If I may ask, what other qualities were you looking for that the girl in the first quoted didn't possess?
Great sexual connection, passionate, firecracker sex, you both cared deeply for each other, she's a great cook, what am I missing?
Seems like that would be the ultimate.
I miss the fun times we had together. And just being together. Not really the sex. Every girl I’ve been with has been great sex. Almost interchangeable. But. Each girl was different and wonderful (non sexually) in her own way. That is what I miss.Lets figure it out..easy sex? Can be bought. Great company? If it was so great she would be there?
What else? @Hacker You're invited in this thread bruh..
As the late Patrice O'neal said: its like missing your favorite pen.,ust an ego thing...
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Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.