Gamisch
Master Don Juan
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Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
-A "goner" 99 /100 means the sex wasn't great anymore.The sex.
It’s not that deep. I’ve had sex with all of my exes post break up. I never wanted any of them back lmao-A "goner" 99 /100 means the sex wasn't great anymore.
-sex can bebobtained other ways, and eventually can be bought.
- sex ia the worst reason to stay with a woman who doesn't want to be with you.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Used to think so, until a few years later, even the memory of the sex fades eventually.The sex.
Great answer.A sounding board to run ideas by, someone to complain about my day to and celebrate the small wins with. Companionship, sex (it’s not the same as paid for sex and I am experienced with both), things to do on the weekend without the need to impress.
Being able to focus on things other than women, as a partner being there just slots into your life and fills that void with minimal effort (once relationship is matured/established).
A cook/cleaner, organiser, life admin assistant, something pretty to look at.
That’s all I can think of off the top.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I get by just fine without a woman, I love my own space, but when I think about it, the above reasons are what came to my mind.Great answer.
And within this answer also hides the problem we men have. This is all honeymoon phase stuff. I know that I've been through this AT LEAST 40 times.
We're learning the HARD way that all these aspects are voids that must be filled otherwise.
Its only doable when you switch women every x amount of years or even months. Ask any married man if this is sustainable for long..
The irony is that once you manage to fill that void WITHOUT a woman, they'll line up to be that woman for you...
Captivating, but what do you see?
I've only got one ex I miss having sex with. Its because we had a sexual connection that was like no other. She knew it, I knew it. I don't think she will ever be topped. Our bodies fit together really well. She was a crazy chic of course. We both liked to push sexual boundaries, nothing was taboo, we were both really into pleasing each other. It was p0rnstar sex except between two people that cared about each other which made it ultra passionate. Her cooking skills were top notch as well.
If I may ask, what other qualities were you looking for that the girl in the first quoted didn't possess?she didn't have everything I was looking for. I'm only committing to the top women.
Thanks but my question was for @The Duke .A sense of humour, sense of style,submissiveness, frugal, tight body, her own teeth, good boobs, red hair, good social network, earning good money, et cetera.
lol, that was funny, I'll give you that.her own teeth,
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
She was very difficult to sit down and have a two way conversation with, even about fun things. She did most of the talking.If I may ask, what other qualities were you looking for that the girl in the first quoted didn't possess?
Great sexual connection, passionate, firecracker sex, you both cared deeply for each other, she's a great cook, what am I missing?
Seems like that would be the ultimate.
I miss the fun times we had together. And just being together. Not really the sex. Every girl I’ve been with has been great sex. Almost interchangeable. But. Each girl was different and wonderful (non sexually) in her own way. That is what I miss.Lets figure it out..easy sex? Can be bought. Great company? If it was so great she would be there?
What else? @Hacker You're invited in this thread bruh..
As the late Patrice O'neal said: its like missing your favorite pen.,ust an ego thing...
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Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.