"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What was your WORST Approach Experience?

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I was in New Haven with my wing one night. We went into this bar and were looking around for women to chat with.

My wing points out a group of three women. I say ok, I'm going in. I start chatting with one of the women. Then....out of nowhere, comes a 300lb+ AMOG who literally GROWLED at me, SHOWED ALL OF HIS TEETH like some kind of wild animal and yelled "THAT'S MY GIRL."

I whisper to my wing...."Umm we better get out of here, JAWS is after me lol."

I then said "Sorry man" and we took off.

Mike
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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:woo: haha.

I tripped in front of the girl I was filrting with. Yep. I'm not proud of the experience either, considering I was in front of a lot of people I knew as well. :) Gravity, who needs it.
 
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Haha, Jaws...good one.

One of my very first approaches, I asked to sit and eat with this really cute girl. My hands were freaking shaking like I had Parkinson's disease. I was so extremely nervous...my face would go red, and I would stutter too. There were so many awkward silences...and I even had the nerve to ask for her number afterwards. Haha, I was such an idiot.

What's worse is I ran into the same girl a few more times later on. It was pretty damn awkward...

Lesson learned: people don't like being around nervous people. Good thing I don't freeze up like that any more.

Although, only a week or so ago, I approached this girl at the dining hall...and her boyfriend came to join us. I thought it would be awkward, but it actually turned out very okay, and I got to know both of them. Again, lesson I learned is, as long as you're not nervous, but cool/relaxed...any situation will go a ton smoother.
 
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was on a boat party about a year ago, i started giving this girl EC.
she walked over (i was sitting down), and reached out to pull me up to go dance with her (i was half drunk).

i stood up too fast and headbutted her and gave her a cut above the eye lol was soooo embarassing..
 
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Originally posted by dexxl
was on a boat party about a year ago, i started giving this girl EC.
she walked over (i was sitting down), and reached out to pull me up to go dance with her (i was half drunk).

i stood up too fast and headbutted her and gave her a cut above the eye lol was soooo embarassing..
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:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: hilarious man...nice going :D
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by dexxl
was on a boat party about a year ago, i started giving this girl EC.
she walked over (i was sitting down), and reached out to pull me up to go dance with her (i was half drunk).

i stood up too fast and headbutted her and gave her a cut above the eye lol was soooo embarassing..
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HAHAHA:crackup: Good one.

As for my worst approach experience, i once went clubbing while i was in vacation in the Dominican Republic. I saw a girl walking and i asked her "Hey, you wanna dance?". She looked at me for a sec, then coldly said "No" and left. I barely had time to say "ok" and she was gone. That was really weird..
 
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