You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
HehBumsniff said:at the very least some of you know you dont offer a real woman any value and gladly admit it! Kudos.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
real woman = large and in charge fatties that we wouldn't give the time of day toBumsniff said:... No real woman who offers anything would waste her time with you jokers.
How do you know? What is your evidence? You are generalizing. It is more likely that you are projecting your OWN experience, which is likely that NO MEN offer YOU anything of value.Bumsniff said:surprise surprise. None of you offer ANY value....
The girl I'm "dating" is 37, tall, thin, healthy, can almost keep pace with me when running, has been an executive in a software company for over ten years, is well-mannered and never embarrasses me in public or in front of my friends. She has never had children, and her body is absolutely fantastic, it's like shooting a porn movie when we go at it.Bumsniff said:No wonder you have to date the dregs of humanity....
I wouldn't have bragged but I am going to respond to this guy.Bumsniff said:None of you offer ANY value.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Burroughs wants to join them :yes: :yes: :yes:Burroughs said:twentee and spazzy are fag buddies :rock: :yes: :yes:
No one here offers a woman any LESS than a woman offers a man.Bumsniff said:surprise surprise. None of you offer ANY value. And don't give me none of that I don't have to prove anything crap. Try buying something and a salesperson tells you the product doesn't have to prove anything to you you should just buy it. It's like amature comedy night on here. hehe!
No wonder you have to date the dregs of humanity.
at the very least some of you know you dont offer a real woman any value and gladly admit it! Kudos.
i agree. the OP is pretty abrasive but the question in itself is a valid onezekko said:Guys here are always talking about improving themselves, becoming a man of value, and displaying high value. I don't see anything wrong with the question.
Maybe if we rephrase it, people won't get so defensive about it. What are you basing your confidence on?
There is nothing wrong with going for high standards. But, there is a catch. It is this catch, when not obeyed, will keep you in that bubble of fantasy. In fact, Shakespeare has saying on it in which he says…
“The catch, Pook. Get to the catch.”
Very well. Here it is:
The high standards you apply to your desires must be applied to yourself.
Do you want a woman who is not overweight? Then you must eliminate your overweight. Do you want a woman who is intellectually brilliant? Then you must hit the books, read the classics, think, and expand your mind. Do you want a woman who is athletic? Then you too must become athletic.
Try, if you want, to get a woman who is better then you in these traits. You may or may not succeed. But only demand that which you can reflect as well. This forces you on the path of self-improvement
Bumsniff sounds like a woman with her shaming tactics on, and the question is essentially a sh1t test, a way to make us qualify ourselves to her majestic Bum, dance to her farting tunes.zekko said:Guys here are always talking about improving themselves, becoming a man of value, and displaying high value. I don't see anything wrong with the question.
Maybe if we rephrase it, people won't get so defensive about it. What are you basing your confidence on?
I agree Bumsniff appears to be a troll poster, after seeing some of his/her other threads. So I guess that explains the responses.Jitterbug said:Bumsniff sounds like a woman with her shaming tactics on, and the question is essentially a sh1t test, a way to make us qualify ourselves to her majestic Bum, dance to her farting tunes.
Which is why you will never get a straight answer to that from anyone here who's ever read the DJ Bible.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
nahBrownBear said:Burroughs wants to join them :yes: :yes: :yes:
But I'm busy with your mamaBurroughs said:nah
that space is for you Pedobear :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
PoonChaser said:How do you know? What is your evidence? You are generalizing. It is more likely that you are projecting your OWN experience, which is likely that NO MEN offer YOU anything of value.
I'd like you to explain more about what you think the difference between a "real woman" and a "non-real woman" would be. Please, be specific. This should be good.
The girl I'm "dating" is 37, tall, thin, healthy, can almost keep pace with me when running, has been an executive in a software company for over ten years, is well-mannered and never embarrasses me in public or in front of my friends. She has never had children, and her body is absolutely fantastic, it's like shooting a porn movie when we go at it.
Hardly the dregs of humanity. And I've seen the girls some of the other dudes in here get, they look pretty good to me....
Look moron... every woman is different.Bumsniff said:And yet none of you STILL can provide the VALUE YOU GIVE a woman.
Women can get value from BETTER MEN than YOU.
What makes YOU so special? None of you can answer because you KNOW you DO NOT POSSESS the VALUE a REAL 7,8,9, let alone 10 can and will get.
cool story brah :rock:BrownBear said:But I'm busy with your mama![]()
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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.