You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
HehBumsniff said:at the very least some of you know you dont offer a real woman any value and gladly admit it! Kudos.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
real woman = large and in charge fatties that we wouldn't give the time of day toBumsniff said:... No real woman who offers anything would waste her time with you jokers.
How do you know? What is your evidence? You are generalizing. It is more likely that you are projecting your OWN experience, which is likely that NO MEN offer YOU anything of value.Bumsniff said:surprise surprise. None of you offer ANY value....
The girl I'm "dating" is 37, tall, thin, healthy, can almost keep pace with me when running, has been an executive in a software company for over ten years, is well-mannered and never embarrasses me in public or in front of my friends. She has never had children, and her body is absolutely fantastic, it's like shooting a porn movie when we go at it.Bumsniff said:No wonder you have to date the dregs of humanity....
I wouldn't have bragged but I am going to respond to this guy.Bumsniff said:None of you offer ANY value.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Burroughs wants to join them :yes: :yes: :yes:Burroughs said:twentee and spazzy are fag buddies :rock: :yes: :yes:
No one here offers a woman any LESS than a woman offers a man.Bumsniff said:surprise surprise. None of you offer ANY value. And don't give me none of that I don't have to prove anything crap. Try buying something and a salesperson tells you the product doesn't have to prove anything to you you should just buy it. It's like amature comedy night on here. hehe!
No wonder you have to date the dregs of humanity.
at the very least some of you know you dont offer a real woman any value and gladly admit it! Kudos.
i agree. the OP is pretty abrasive but the question in itself is a valid onezekko said:Guys here are always talking about improving themselves, becoming a man of value, and displaying high value. I don't see anything wrong with the question.
Maybe if we rephrase it, people won't get so defensive about it. What are you basing your confidence on?
There is nothing wrong with going for high standards. But, there is a catch. It is this catch, when not obeyed, will keep you in that bubble of fantasy. In fact, Shakespeare has saying on it in which he says…
“The catch, Pook. Get to the catch.”
Very well. Here it is:
The high standards you apply to your desires must be applied to yourself.
Do you want a woman who is not overweight? Then you must eliminate your overweight. Do you want a woman who is intellectually brilliant? Then you must hit the books, read the classics, think, and expand your mind. Do you want a woman who is athletic? Then you too must become athletic.
Try, if you want, to get a woman who is better then you in these traits. You may or may not succeed. But only demand that which you can reflect as well. This forces you on the path of self-improvement
Bumsniff sounds like a woman with her shaming tactics on, and the question is essentially a sh1t test, a way to make us qualify ourselves to her majestic Bum, dance to her farting tunes.zekko said:Guys here are always talking about improving themselves, becoming a man of value, and displaying high value. I don't see anything wrong with the question.
Maybe if we rephrase it, people won't get so defensive about it. What are you basing your confidence on?
I agree Bumsniff appears to be a troll poster, after seeing some of his/her other threads. So I guess that explains the responses.Jitterbug said:Bumsniff sounds like a woman with her shaming tactics on, and the question is essentially a sh1t test, a way to make us qualify ourselves to her majestic Bum, dance to her farting tunes.
Which is why you will never get a straight answer to that from anyone here who's ever read the DJ Bible.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
nahBrownBear said:Burroughs wants to join them :yes: :yes: :yes:
But I'm busy with your mamaBurroughs said:nah
that space is for you Pedobear :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
PoonChaser said:How do you know? What is your evidence? You are generalizing. It is more likely that you are projecting your OWN experience, which is likely that NO MEN offer YOU anything of value.
I'd like you to explain more about what you think the difference between a "real woman" and a "non-real woman" would be. Please, be specific. This should be good.
The girl I'm "dating" is 37, tall, thin, healthy, can almost keep pace with me when running, has been an executive in a software company for over ten years, is well-mannered and never embarrasses me in public or in front of my friends. She has never had children, and her body is absolutely fantastic, it's like shooting a porn movie when we go at it.
Hardly the dregs of humanity. And I've seen the girls some of the other dudes in here get, they look pretty good to me....
Look moron... every woman is different.Bumsniff said:And yet none of you STILL can provide the VALUE YOU GIVE a woman.
Women can get value from BETTER MEN than YOU.
What makes YOU so special? None of you can answer because you KNOW you DO NOT POSSESS the VALUE a REAL 7,8,9, let alone 10 can and will get.
cool story brah :rock:BrownBear said:But I'm busy with your mama![]()
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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.