"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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What to write to her now????

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Pick-up: very ****y and funny, she had to laugh a lot. It was fun! She gave me her number without problems.

Then two days later sms-writing:

ME: hey....[a little bit of ****y and funny]
how r u?

Her: hey I guess you're the guy who approached me in....

ME: yes that's me...[****y and funny question]

Her: [answered my ****y and funny question] how r u?

Me: I'm fine...hey lets meet to have a drink together. I'm ver busy on Thursday and Friday but on Saturday I have a little bit of time. Let's say from 4 to 6 o'clock. I'm in the town anyway.

now it's thursday and she didnt answered neither my last sms nor my call (I called her on Wednesday because she didn't answered my last sms on Tuesday).

What would you guys do? If I'm gonna wirte her what should I write? What's your opinion?

Thanks! :cheer:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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xblitz44x

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Out of curiosity, why did you bother to state how busy you were on Thursday and Friday? Couldn't you just have said: "Do you want to get together on Saturday?" I think you sounded like you were going out of the way to convince her that you were a cool guy who has plans.

However, that's probably not even why she hasn't messaged you back yet. Who knows the real reason? Maybe she just isn't interested enough in a stranger she met on the street. Maybe she had another offer and you just aren't that important in her world yet. Regardless, don't get pissy and impatient. Hang in there.

If you don't hear from her, I'd call her again on Monday and ask her out for sometime during the week. If that doesn't work out, write it off.
 

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I would call her up,not text message. Get used to her voice over the phone and in person.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Puuuh:

She wrote me back:

"Hi Im sorry that I didnt write you back soon. I would really like to meet you on Saturday but I'm busy then. What about next week? Bye..."


CYA guys...
 

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Originally posted by Master of Seduction
Puuuh:

She wrote me back:

"Hi Im sorry that I didnt write you back soon. I would really like to meet you on Saturday but I'm busy then. What about next week? Bye..."


CYA guys...
I'd text her back with something like this:

"well...alright. Next week it is, but try to keep yourself more organised in the future.... I'm not gonna wait around forever ya know ;)"


I take no responsibility if that comment f*cks things up for you....I'm just telling what I would do.

If she flakes again then NEXT.
 

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I think she is going to be a flake, as you stated you were really ****y and funny and had her dieing. Yep she was hyped up at that time but when you left it kinda died down and now she isnt as hyped as before. What you should have done was gain alittle rapport so the chances of her flaking is lower. If she does go out next week then thats great but you cutting your chances by not gaining no rapport in sets after being so C&F.
 
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