Ryan Adams
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ask a plate out. she said maybe idk yet lol. I said ok let me know soon. this wasn't night. did I respond accordingly? should I maybe follow up?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
what to when she says maybe
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
mrgoodstuff
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Ignore a week . Say "maybe not".
mrgoodstuff
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"actually don't worry about it, I have other plans" . Ignore a week .
Ryan Adams
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I just figured I wont say ****
Ryan Adams
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well this was last night and she never responded. I havent said anything back yet
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
mrgoodstuff
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Fvck that bytch . Maybe go fvck a good go-to babe.
Life is weird, you start fvcking one then the other wants you.
Do not validate this bytch .She wants to know your waiting .
Have you fvcked her yet? If not she gets no more of your attention. That means none .
mrgoodstuff
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Good man...
Don't respond for a week . Let her send about a half dozen texts you dont respond to. Cause she will send out a "feeler" text just to see your still "online". That text may read:
"Wyd"
"Good morning"
"How are you?"
Don't respond . Those are cheap attempts to get attention .
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Ryan Adams
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never fvcked only kissed
mrgoodstuff
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Fvck her.
mrgoodstuff
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Listen to some AMS (Alpha male strategies) YouTube's on "validation".
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Ryan Adams
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so never contact again?
mrgoodstuff
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Spend the 10 minutes to listen to AMS YouTube on validation. Then report back .
Fvck her, fvck that maybe, fvck flakes.
Be a fan of yourself.
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Her: Maybe IDK yet
Me (2 hrs later): No problem...I will take advantage of others plans. Take care though
Thats it. I dont circle the wagon back around a week later like other's suggest to do. She knows how to reach me if she wants to smash.
If there is no definite counteroffer for a specific day its dueces. Adios. C-ya.
Me (2 hrs later): No problem...I will take advantage of others plans. Take care though
Thats it. I dont circle the wagon back around a week later like other's suggest to do. She knows how to reach me if she wants to smash.
If there is no definite counteroffer for a specific day its dueces. Adios. C-ya.
Low interest. Anything but a yes is a no blah blah blah. Your game wasn’t good enough with this one. Find new girls that make it easy for you. She thinks she has more value than you. Never reach out twice, wait for her to contact and when she does set up a date. Two strike rule.
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Her: Maybe IDK yet
Me (2 hrs later): No problem...I will take advantage of others plans. Take care though
Thats it. I dont circle the wagon back around a week later like other's suggest to do. She knows how to reach me if she wants to smash.
If there is no definite counteroffer for a specific day its dueces. Adios. C-ya.
I agree. “Maybe idk” means no or if nothing else comes through then yes. Don’t bother contacting her again. It’s obvious her interest is low. Let her do all of the reaching out first. Let her bring up getting together.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Ryan Adams
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yeah she just snapchatted me a pic of her at the pool lol
mrgoodstuff
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Her: Maybe IDK yet
Me (2 hrs later): No problem...I will take advantage of others plans. Take care though
Thats it. I dont circle the wagon back around a week later like other's suggest to do. She knows how to reach me if she wants to smash.
If there is no definite counteroffer for a specific day its dueces. Adios. C-ya.
Still ignore . She's showing off. It's like a guy friend whose not reliable for shyt, but he wants you to be there for him to show off
Watch that AMS vid my brother.
Ryan Adams
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im at work but I will when I get home to watch
mrgoodstuff
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Im about to watch that for lunch.
AMS is a bastard, but if your dating he's maxxed everything out to be in the man's benefit.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.