"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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what to tell her in my message?

nvictor

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She's already sent me three messages. She deserve one. But what do I say in my cell phone message? It's more easy on phone. You see before all this DJ stuff I would say "good night, sweet dreams, I miss u, think about me..."

Now I use these expressions rarely.
So do you have an idea of what I can say?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Jack McCrack

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Depends on what she said.

I'd go with "I pick my nose".
 

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Nothing. Stop e-mailing, instant messaging, and texting. Dial her number, and talk to her. Better yet, restrict yourself to only carrying on conversations with her in person.
 

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Demon said:
Nothing. Stop e-mailing, instant messaging, and texting. Dial her number, and talk to her. Better yet, restrict yourself to only carrying on conversations with her in person.

Good idea. But if you must, try something like 'cya, try not to think about me to much'.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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nvictor

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Thanks for your advice. Oh! I really like our style Demon. She didn't even wait for my message to send me this "Bring me something tomorrow I'd be happy". Which I'm planing to answer "Oh my! What happened to the old days when women buy chocolate for men?"

Who is she? She is a co-worker :D But you know what? We are young, both twenties. She's on internship (hoping to get the job). I'm leaving soon. So why not?

But I'd avoid her most of the time at work. And talk to her seriously when we are leaving, or during pause-cafés... I'm not at her feet, as everyone else is doing. And you know what? She likes it. :)
 
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