"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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What to talk about with females?

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I know this has probably been discussed over and over again on these forums but help me out here.

What are some topics to talk with females about...you know **** that can keep a convo going and keep the female interested. :up:
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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I dunno... What is the particular one you're talking about interested in?
 

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Basically what im asking is...it could even be texting like AIM or something, you know female hits you up and says whatsup... instead of the normal Chilling or Nothing, you? You know like what could you talk about...
 

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Bonafide said:
Basically what im asking is...it could even be texting like AIM or something, you know female hits you up and says whatsup... instead of the normal Chilling or Nothing, you? You know like what could you talk about...
Funny stories that have happened to you.
Fashion/GQ/Health/Dieting/Fitness
Hobbies/Travel
Sex
Music
Entertainment/News

Things to avoid with most women early on:
Religion
Politics
 
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Bonafide said:
Basically what im asking is...it could even be texting like AIM or something, you know female hits you up and says whatsup... instead of the normal Chilling or Nothing, you? You know like what could you talk about...
Don't say How's the weather, lol.. When I talked my friend Coco (internet name) lol on MSN we talked about everything and anything under the sun.. She talked about her family, and I would ask questions about her culture, and tell her stuff that I'm currently doing.

Basicly no pressure kind of talk.... avoid talking about negetive things like.. school shootings, drugs, ect ect.. Also don't change the subject on her..listen to her, even if it's boring.

Be funny, and candid... I would send my friend Coco a song and we would listen to it together at the same time over the internet... We would type fastly the words to see how close in sync we were playing the song.

Pretty cool to do that with a cool girl from so far away.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Bonafide said:
Basically what im asking is...it could even be texting like AIM or something, you know female hits you up and says whatsup... instead of the normal Chilling or Nothing, you? You know like what could you talk about...
Texting isn't having a conversation. Texting is what women do when they're bored. Re-read your post, are you typically readily available for their entertainment?
 

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cant u talk with people? if no, im very sorry but would advise u to go improve on that. but if u can do that and only facing probs when talking to women, treat them as normal people and chat the hell outta them. lol why should there be any specific topic as long as u two are enjoying it and are feeling that upbeat emotion or that connection. thats it. and just tell u a secret, connection is not built with normal boring formality-type questions but with invading exciting questions. ok, i give u some help here (sorry if my english is a bit too hard for u ;)):

when she says "sup?" u say, "nothing........thats wat probably said by everyone says, so lemme say something different, maybe 'yesthing'" and u r in! next ask questions like "did u ever try an escort?" and follow it up with a funny story of urs and so on.... but dont feel pressured to use this type of cheeky comments all the time. it shud be here and there as u like and also remember to ask normal question like "what u do?" "do u have a boyfriend?"....

hope this helps.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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