my gf is pissed. been dating for 5 years. well i did something stupid. i was angry at her, so i called her while i was drunk and said i'm f**** another chick. anyhow she started to talk to me again but says she's very frustrated. I wanted to send her something nice. was wondering if anyone have suggestions, other than flowers, or would just flowers suffice.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
what to send mad girlfriend?
- Thread starter Jamesdl
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
do nothing, and when things are going good in a month give her flowers out of the blue and they will mean something. Why must you buy her a gift since you messed up. Give her the gift of a good hard f ing, and being her boyfriend...
Fingerling
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Where/are you actually F**king anyother chick or just say it to make her mad?
DarthNihilus
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Follow Desdinova's old sig...
"Rewarding a woman for bad behavior is like rewarding a dog for sh!tting on your carpet."
And sure this isn't technically "bad behavior" in the sense she disrespected you but still its a state that she's in you are not cool with even if it is something that anyone could see as understandable on her part.
Never admit wrong to a woman.
NEVER.
Their brains perceive it as weakness.
"Rewarding a woman for bad behavior is like rewarding a dog for sh!tting on your carpet."
And sure this isn't technically "bad behavior" in the sense she disrespected you but still its a state that she's in you are not cool with even if it is something that anyone could see as understandable on her part.
Never admit wrong to a woman.
NEVER.
Their brains perceive it as weakness.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Thats' probably right. By admitting that you were wrong you are revealing that you are flawed or defective in some area of your character or behavior. Her fantasy of you as "the Man" is therefore damaged or at least scratched and dented. And it is a REAL scratch which she cannot ignore in the future because you admitted it.DarthNihilus said:
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Just ride this one out. Never send flowers as a peace offering - it is a pleading and grovelling gesture.Jamesdl said:
Send flowers only (and rarely) to reward something excellent that she has done for you.
Secondly, you need to give yourself an uppercut for getting drunk, AND give yourself another hard slap for calling her with that juvenile provocation.
You can now add 'stupid' to her perception of you.
Desdinova
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That was a great sig! I'm putting it backDarthNihilus said:
Also, I think an apology is justifiable. What you did was fvcking stupid. If she continues to act badly after the apology, give her nothing until she is actually willing to accept your apology.
There's nothing wrong with apologizing to a woman when you're actually in the wrong, and you know it. This is one of those cases.
But NEVER apologize for your manly desires, your attraction to a woman, and never use it as a quick fix to stop her from yelling at you.
Deadly_Ripped
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After five years of dating the same person, both peoples' fallibility is clearly established. There's no benefit to hoping to maintain an aura of perfection by never admitting you're wrong. It's juvenile to think that you shouldn't apologize for errors. By apologizing, you're showing maturity, and you're also demonstrating that you have the balls to risk her potential rejection of your apology.
If you really were ****ing some other girl, then you might as well not apologize since you were just telling the truth.
edit: Send her something more personal than flowers. Perhaps you could make something and incorporate a picture of the two of you into it as a visual reminder to her that you two are right for each other.
If you really were ****ing some other girl, then you might as well not apologize since you were just telling the truth.
edit: Send her something more personal than flowers. Perhaps you could make something and incorporate a picture of the two of you into it as a visual reminder to her that you two are right for each other.
Da Realist
Master Don Juan
Apologize once and let it go. If she is going to harp about it forever, there is nothing you can do. Sending her a gift will basically just make her say you make her feel cheap.
scrouds
Master Don Juan
Flowers, chocolate and a vermont teddy bear.
Nothing gets you out of the doghouse (and out of a recession) better then good old american consumerism. Buy buy buy.
... For real now... I echo the sentiments above. Apologize when things are truly your fault, then move on. If she doesn't move on with you, then that is bad behavior. And bad behavior is not to be rewarded.
Nothing gets you out of the doghouse (and out of a recession) better then good old american consumerism. Buy buy buy.
... For real now... I echo the sentiments above. Apologize when things are truly your fault, then move on. If she doesn't move on with you, then that is bad behavior. And bad behavior is not to be rewarded.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
kingy
Senior Don Juan
do you want her back or not? did u **** someone else? is this healthy? was hitler a bit of a bastead?
crazy girlfriends usually just need a bit of a cuddle or a horse tranqualiser, either is fine.
crazy girlfriends usually just need a bit of a cuddle or a horse tranqualiser, either is fine.