my gf is pissed. been dating for 5 years. well i did something stupid. i was angry at her, so i called her while i was drunk and said i'm f**** another chick. anyhow she started to talk to me again but says she's very frustrated. I wanted to send her something nice. was wondering if anyone have suggestions, other than flowers, or would just flowers suffice.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
what to send mad girlfriend?
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She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
do nothing, and when things are going good in a month give her flowers out of the blue and they will mean something. Why must you buy her a gift since you messed up. Give her the gift of a good hard f ing, and being her boyfriend...
Fingerling
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Where/are you actually F**king anyother chick or just say it to make her mad?
DarthNihilus
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Follow Desdinova's old sig...
"Rewarding a woman for bad behavior is like rewarding a dog for sh!tting on your carpet."
And sure this isn't technically "bad behavior" in the sense she disrespected you but still its a state that she's in you are not cool with even if it is something that anyone could see as understandable on her part.
Never admit wrong to a woman.
NEVER.
Their brains perceive it as weakness.
"Rewarding a woman for bad behavior is like rewarding a dog for sh!tting on your carpet."
And sure this isn't technically "bad behavior" in the sense she disrespected you but still its a state that she's in you are not cool with even if it is something that anyone could see as understandable on her part.
Never admit wrong to a woman.
NEVER.
Their brains perceive it as weakness.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Thats' probably right. By admitting that you were wrong you are revealing that you are flawed or defective in some area of your character or behavior. Her fantasy of you as "the Man" is therefore damaged or at least scratched and dented. And it is a REAL scratch which she cannot ignore in the future because you admitted it.DarthNihilus said:
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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
jophil28
Master Don Juan
Just ride this one out. Never send flowers as a peace offering - it is a pleading and grovelling gesture.Jamesdl said:
Send flowers only (and rarely) to reward something excellent that she has done for you.
Secondly, you need to give yourself an uppercut for getting drunk, AND give yourself another hard slap for calling her with that juvenile provocation.
You can now add 'stupid' to her perception of you.
Desdinova
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That was a great sig! I'm putting it backDarthNihilus said:
Also, I think an apology is justifiable. What you did was fvcking stupid. If she continues to act badly after the apology, give her nothing until she is actually willing to accept your apology.
There's nothing wrong with apologizing to a woman when you're actually in the wrong, and you know it. This is one of those cases.
But NEVER apologize for your manly desires, your attraction to a woman, and never use it as a quick fix to stop her from yelling at you.
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After five years of dating the same person, both peoples' fallibility is clearly established. There's no benefit to hoping to maintain an aura of perfection by never admitting you're wrong. It's juvenile to think that you shouldn't apologize for errors. By apologizing, you're showing maturity, and you're also demonstrating that you have the balls to risk her potential rejection of your apology.
If you really were ****ing some other girl, then you might as well not apologize since you were just telling the truth.
edit: Send her something more personal than flowers. Perhaps you could make something and incorporate a picture of the two of you into it as a visual reminder to her that you two are right for each other.
If you really were ****ing some other girl, then you might as well not apologize since you were just telling the truth.
edit: Send her something more personal than flowers. Perhaps you could make something and incorporate a picture of the two of you into it as a visual reminder to her that you two are right for each other.
Da Realist
Master Don Juan
Apologize once and let it go. If she is going to harp about it forever, there is nothing you can do. Sending her a gift will basically just make her say you make her feel cheap.
scrouds
Master Don Juan
Flowers, chocolate and a vermont teddy bear.
Nothing gets you out of the doghouse (and out of a recession) better then good old american consumerism. Buy buy buy.
... For real now... I echo the sentiments above. Apologize when things are truly your fault, then move on. If she doesn't move on with you, then that is bad behavior. And bad behavior is not to be rewarded.
Nothing gets you out of the doghouse (and out of a recession) better then good old american consumerism. Buy buy buy.
... For real now... I echo the sentiments above. Apologize when things are truly your fault, then move on. If she doesn't move on with you, then that is bad behavior. And bad behavior is not to be rewarded.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
kingy
Senior Don Juan
do you want her back or not? did u **** someone else? is this healthy? was hitler a bit of a bastead?
crazy girlfriends usually just need a bit of a cuddle or a horse tranqualiser, either is fine.
crazy girlfriends usually just need a bit of a cuddle or a horse tranqualiser, either is fine.