"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What to say when she asks 'so are we together then?'

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Hi, mentioned in a previous post that I'm seeing 2 girls, however I don't want to get too serious with 1 of these girls. At a lunch date last week 1 girl asked me if me and her were actually an item, as in are we 'going out' like boyfriend and girlfriend. That question REALLY put me on the spot!!! I replied 'well I prefer to get to know a girl before rushing headlong into a relationship'....was that a good reply, or is there something better I could say?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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When a girl asks you that question, don't try to avoid it but just tell her the truth.

"I do enjoy the dating aspect and I am currently not intrested in a relationship"

She can either take it or leave it. Avoiding the question will cause you more headaches down the road.
 
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This is gold. Thank me later:

I value what we have, but I am too busy for a serious relationship
 

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Originally posted by Happiness Renewed
This is gold. Thank me later:

I value what we have, but I am too busy for a serious relationship
wait isnt it a **** test to see where this is all going??

and wouldnt saying the above ruin the possibility of a LTR?
 

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Originally posted by ScrewIt
and wouldnt saying the above ruin the possibility of a LTR?
He just said he wasn't interested in an LTR.

If that's what you're into, your response changes somewhat. But he doesn't want to get tied down to this girl.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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I think it was a good reply (of course if you are portraying the correct body language). Follow up by saying too many relationships that would turn out great are ruined, because things moved too quick.
 

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So basically a girl submitted herself to be yours. She gave up all her power to you and you were put off by her question. You should have manned-up and said Hell yes you are mine. The key is you said you are MINE! Women were put here for us, they are yours. Too many guys try to get women by pushing them away. Whether you want a one night stand, or ltr you better act as if you want to OWN her. Women only want to be claimed. That want bf stories. That is women cheat, when you dont claim them but somebody else will. Their nature is to be possessed. Someone must be in charge, if you dont she will. Its the natural order of all relationships with people. Some one must always be the leader wheather you realize or not.

Own her soul you own her soildier!
 
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