"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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What to say? Girl asked if I think she's slutty

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Got a text at 2:30 last night randomly from a girl I've been talking to off and on the past few weeks. Haven't fvcked her yet. I know she hangs around the bars near her a lot so wouldn't be surprised if she sleeps around a lot, but don't know her well enough to say for sure so kinda a weird question for her to ask me.

How should I respond?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Don't. Just proceed as though the text never occurred. You cannot diplomatically answer that question. She seems worried about it for some reason and a response of any sort is just going to inflame the situation.

File it in the back of your mind and continue to observe her behavior. If you pay attention people always show you who they are.
 

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Got a text at 2:30 last night randomly from a girl I've been talking to off and on the past few weeks. Haven't fvcked her yet. I know she hangs around the bars near her a lot so wouldn't be surprised if she sleeps around a lot, but don't know her well enough to say for sure so kinda a weird question for her to ask me.

How should I respond?
Trap question. She will use any response against you.

"No." - you can't have sex with her because you offended her, she's a prude.
"Yes" - you can't have sex with her because you offended her, she's a slut.

If you have to respond, you could say "What kind of question is that?"
 

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Don't. Just proceed as though the text never occurred. You cannot diplomatically answer that question. She seems worried about it for some reason and a response of any sort is just going to inflame the situation.

File it in the back of your mind and continue to observe her behavior. If you pay attention people always show you who they are.

This
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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"Yeah you seem slutty"

lol. in for response.
 

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Got a text at 2:30 last night randomly from a girl I've been talking to off and on the past few weeks. Haven't fvcked her yet. I know she hangs around the bars near her a lot so wouldn't be surprised if she sleeps around a lot, but don't know her well enough to say for sure so kinda a weird question for her to ask me.

How should I respond?
If any girl is texting you at all then she is open to being fvcked. 230 am? She's desperate for your dvxk
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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OP please tell me you responded something good.

If your answer wasnt in the realm of "I dont know, come over and we'll find out"

Your doing it WRONG!!!
 

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Got a text at 2:30 last night randomly from a girl I've been talking to off and on the past few weeks. Haven't fvcked her yet. I know she hangs around the bars near her a lot so wouldn't be surprised if she sleeps around a lot, but don't know her well enough to say for sure so kinda a weird question for her to ask me.

How should I respond?
Ignore it.
 
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My response:

"Hmmm, seems like a random question... are you saying you feel slutty?"

Yes, the old "respond to a question with a question" trick. Don't fall for giving her an actual answer - you don't win.

On the off-chance she's given you details about the x-number of guys she's been with:

"Hmmmm... and you feel that would make me view you as slutty because...?"

Just the fact that she's asking this question, though, would make me ponder how many dudes she's been with. Then again, some girls are taught to believe sleeping with more than one guy makes them look bad.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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