"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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What to say? Girl asked if I think she's slutty

dk1990S111

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Got a text at 2:30 last night randomly from a girl I've been talking to off and on the past few weeks. Haven't fvcked her yet. I know she hangs around the bars near her a lot so wouldn't be surprised if she sleeps around a lot, but don't know her well enough to say for sure so kinda a weird question for her to ask me.

How should I respond?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Don't. Just proceed as though the text never occurred. You cannot diplomatically answer that question. She seems worried about it for some reason and a response of any sort is just going to inflame the situation.

File it in the back of your mind and continue to observe her behavior. If you pay attention people always show you who they are.
 

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Got a text at 2:30 last night randomly from a girl I've been talking to off and on the past few weeks. Haven't fvcked her yet. I know she hangs around the bars near her a lot so wouldn't be surprised if she sleeps around a lot, but don't know her well enough to say for sure so kinda a weird question for her to ask me.

How should I respond?
Trap question. She will use any response against you.

"No." - you can't have sex with her because you offended her, she's a prude.
"Yes" - you can't have sex with her because you offended her, she's a slut.

If you have to respond, you could say "What kind of question is that?"
 

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Don't. Just proceed as though the text never occurred. You cannot diplomatically answer that question. She seems worried about it for some reason and a response of any sort is just going to inflame the situation.

File it in the back of your mind and continue to observe her behavior. If you pay attention people always show you who they are.

This
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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"Yeah you seem slutty"

lol. in for response.
 

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Got a text at 2:30 last night randomly from a girl I've been talking to off and on the past few weeks. Haven't fvcked her yet. I know she hangs around the bars near her a lot so wouldn't be surprised if she sleeps around a lot, but don't know her well enough to say for sure so kinda a weird question for her to ask me.

How should I respond?
If any girl is texting you at all then she is open to being fvcked. 230 am? She's desperate for your dvxk
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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OP please tell me you responded something good.

If your answer wasnt in the realm of "I dont know, come over and we'll find out"

Your doing it WRONG!!!
 

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Got a text at 2:30 last night randomly from a girl I've been talking to off and on the past few weeks. Haven't fvcked her yet. I know she hangs around the bars near her a lot so wouldn't be surprised if she sleeps around a lot, but don't know her well enough to say for sure so kinda a weird question for her to ask me.

How should I respond?
Ignore it.
 
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My response:

"Hmmm, seems like a random question... are you saying you feel slutty?"

Yes, the old "respond to a question with a question" trick. Don't fall for giving her an actual answer - you don't win.

On the off-chance she's given you details about the x-number of guys she's been with:

"Hmmmm... and you feel that would make me view you as slutty because...?"

Just the fact that she's asking this question, though, would make me ponder how many dudes she's been with. Then again, some girls are taught to believe sleeping with more than one guy makes them look bad.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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