"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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What to say? Girl asked if I think she's slutty

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Got a text at 2:30 last night randomly from a girl I've been talking to off and on the past few weeks. Haven't fvcked her yet. I know she hangs around the bars near her a lot so wouldn't be surprised if she sleeps around a lot, but don't know her well enough to say for sure so kinda a weird question for her to ask me.

How should I respond?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Don't. Just proceed as though the text never occurred. You cannot diplomatically answer that question. She seems worried about it for some reason and a response of any sort is just going to inflame the situation.

File it in the back of your mind and continue to observe her behavior. If you pay attention people always show you who they are.
 

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Got a text at 2:30 last night randomly from a girl I've been talking to off and on the past few weeks. Haven't fvcked her yet. I know she hangs around the bars near her a lot so wouldn't be surprised if she sleeps around a lot, but don't know her well enough to say for sure so kinda a weird question for her to ask me.

How should I respond?
Trap question. She will use any response against you.

"No." - you can't have sex with her because you offended her, she's a prude.
"Yes" - you can't have sex with her because you offended her, she's a slut.

If you have to respond, you could say "What kind of question is that?"
 

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Don't. Just proceed as though the text never occurred. You cannot diplomatically answer that question. She seems worried about it for some reason and a response of any sort is just going to inflame the situation.

File it in the back of your mind and continue to observe her behavior. If you pay attention people always show you who they are.

This
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"Yeah you seem slutty"

lol. in for response.
 

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Got a text at 2:30 last night randomly from a girl I've been talking to off and on the past few weeks. Haven't fvcked her yet. I know she hangs around the bars near her a lot so wouldn't be surprised if she sleeps around a lot, but don't know her well enough to say for sure so kinda a weird question for her to ask me.

How should I respond?
If any girl is texting you at all then she is open to being fvcked. 230 am? She's desperate for your dvxk
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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OP please tell me you responded something good.

If your answer wasnt in the realm of "I dont know, come over and we'll find out"

Your doing it WRONG!!!
 

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Got a text at 2:30 last night randomly from a girl I've been talking to off and on the past few weeks. Haven't fvcked her yet. I know she hangs around the bars near her a lot so wouldn't be surprised if she sleeps around a lot, but don't know her well enough to say for sure so kinda a weird question for her to ask me.

How should I respond?
Ignore it.
 
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My response:

"Hmmm, seems like a random question... are you saying you feel slutty?"

Yes, the old "respond to a question with a question" trick. Don't fall for giving her an actual answer - you don't win.

On the off-chance she's given you details about the x-number of guys she's been with:

"Hmmmm... and you feel that would make me view you as slutty because...?"

Just the fact that she's asking this question, though, would make me ponder how many dudes she's been with. Then again, some girls are taught to believe sleeping with more than one guy makes them look bad.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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